Guys, would you choose to be alone, if you only can date women at 30+ since women over 30s are seen as leftovers by some guys?

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Please read. I often read posts on gag that say that women over 30s are leftovers. What confuses me is that even some single dads/men in their 40s+ see women over 30s as leftovers. I can understand when young men prefere young women but i can't understand when even much older men reject majority of women aka women over 30s just for being "leftovers".
I mean it is extremely unrealistic to only want young women aka the minority of women who could even be your daughter since women on average prefere men who are 1-5 years older according to statistics. Average women do prefere older men but they dont prefere 15+ years older or old men according to statistics. Do these guys seriously want to be single rather than dating women over 30s?
I dont judge anyone for their preferences but i dislike it when women get shamed for their age.
So you can prefere who you want but it is wrong to shame on women for their age for example

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https://realitycalc.com/

I am sorry if this post offends you in any way.

FreeMan6354 · Accepted Answer

I'm actually engaged to a woman who is 39 right now (almost 40) and it's the best relationship of my life (and the other girls I dated were all my age). A lot of people may assume that it's because I couldn't get a girl my age or younger (over 18 though), but I actually had and still have options of girls my age or younger (over 18 though). However I still would much rather be with the woman I'm with now (I don't mean to sound conceited, but I do think that's worth pointing out for those who assume I'm only with her because I have no other options, which isn't true).

With that being said, I also think she's very much the exception to the rule. I don't think it's so much that I'd prefer older women as much as I just love being with her. Moreover, the typical 'problems' I'd have with most older women don't apply to her.
1. She's very energetic and outgoing (sometimes I have to keep up with her).
2. She's not really immature, but she is 'immature' enough in certain ways that in makes us much more compatible (and makes me enjoy her company as a partner much more).
3. She does have one daughter, but we get along really well, so that's not an issue.
4. She wants more kids really badly, so we're on the same page there (in fact, she wants to start trying to get pregnant right now)
5. Despite the difference in age and sex we have very compatible sex drives.
6. While she does have a few more wrinkles than girls my age along with other physical differences that come from being older (at least in comparison to me) she still is crazy hot. In fact, she's a lot hotter than most women my age. She also takes religiously good care of herself physically (I know this might be kind of vain, but being physically/sexually attracted to her does matter to me)

JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

Guys will always be most attracted to women at their peak (18-24), regardless of how old the guys are. You trying to relate it to attraction for their daughters is transparent feminist nonsense: threatened by younger women (they'll also allude to such men as being pedophiles for liking women in this age range, in the same way they will for men who prefer thin women- "they're shaped like little girls, you're basically a pedophiles").
Over the hill women (or women who plan to squander their peak years) will often shame/ manipulate men into choosing them over younger women.
It is a RARE woman indeed who is over 30, and not damaged leftovers. Having sex and failed relationships damages a woman's ability to bond with a man, to exude femininity (playful, happy, lighthearted), and to be a trustworthy partner (they're not 30+ single, and not somewhat at fault for being so, e. g. cheaters, toxic, etc.).
Besides, what man would want a women who has given her best to someone else? After their youth and beauty are gone, and wasted being a hoe (i. e. "living her best life"), or spent with the last guy (s) you expect a guy to want these women?
No.

Doom880 · Accepted Answer

Hello, from my own personal experience guys with this mindset, who are interested in much younger women, are either shallow, vain or immature. They are only interested in sex and looks and view women as sex dolls and babymakers...
There are exceptions of course, but they're rare.
Looks and attraction are important in a relationship, but it's not the only thing that matters. Personality, common interests, communication and mutual trust and respect are also important.. That's why most women get married to guys close to their own age (or 3-5 older). Because they're more likely to relate to and have things in common.
When dating a guy 20+ years older than you, there's a huge power imbalance and you're more likely to be objectified and treated as a pet

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I wondered same ever since I joined this website at 17.

Some men here are so shallow, I was even thinking it’s only fair if women start dating younger men too, to make the men feel the same thing as women have always felt.

I am not saying that just because I am 25, I was thinking this way at 18-19 as well.

Lliam · Answer

I've heard that shit before. "Leftovers", "Used goods", even "Soiled or unclean."

Guys over 30 who say things like that are immature idiots. They lack respect for women and have no idea what good sex or a healthy relationship is. All they want are submissive young girls to make babies for them.
I laugh at them.

As you said, it's one thing to have preferences or even for two people to fall in love. But to put women down shows immaturity, lack of life experience, and bad character.

I close 'F'. The most amazing girlfriend I ever had was 30/31. I met my wife when I was 40.

Anonymous · Answer

Actually I prefer dating older women. I can't stand the immaturity or younger women. Yes they can naturally look better but so what? They suck at everything else except looking a bit better and maybe being more fertile. Their attitudes suck, they act like perpetual children, they're less likely to be loyal, they lack wisdom, they're still lost in life

bamesjond0069 · Answer

"I mean it is extremely unrealistic to only want young women..." not for some men. I've almost exclusively been with significantly younger women. Only my girlfriend from high school who i was with a long time was the only one around my age. Every other relationship she was 10+ years younger and most casual sex the girls are 5 to 15+ years younger.

In regards to the poll question. If i couldnt date a much younger woman id prefer to be single. Older women digust me from a relationship perspective. They have nothing i want that would make me want to commit to them. To sum it up by rephrasing a popular nonsense saying girls love, if im not with you at your best im not going to be with you at your worst.

Anonymous · Answer

The statistics may not be true as women always say something about wanting a partner but in reality, they do the opposite. I have personally known many girls aged 18-25 who dated and had sex with men aged 32-44. Although I agree that a lot of women will not do that but still the collective number of women doing so is large. If the guy is successful and rich, most women don't care about if he's 15 years older, but somehow sometimes his looks are important too. They can look a little bit mature but not fat or balding too much.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never heard of 30+ being called leftovers, most celebrities I obsessed over are well over that age. I thought if 2 women looked the same, you're supposed to choose the older one because she aged better. My manager is more than 2x my age and I still think she's better than wife material

Maybe I just don't see it because I'm barely turning 20, the only thing I could maybe think of the older men is missing out. When I started college at 18, I dated a 16 year old partly because I never dated a teen or anyone before that. The experience was so amazing we'd probably still be together if it wasn't for different academic paths and locations

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Personally, I prefer to date women over 30. Less than 30 is just too young for me, at this point in my life. I'd feel like I was dating a child.

Anonymous · Answer

"since women over 30s are seen as leftovers by some guys" - these guys being much younger likely, and/or very immature as well (or only looking for sex). OR, this is what you women are lead to believe by other women, and simply untrue (as seems to be very common thinking). As the case with women, and most people in general, our "views" often change as we get older. Women are not "useless after 30" or "unattractive".

ohshee · Answer

At 30 women are just getting In To there prime I would date a 30 year old that is still so young

Anonymous · Answer

I think what it means is women in their 20s are in the peak of how attractive they will ever be and its only downhill from there so of course men want women at their peak attractiveness but when thats not and option then they settle for the older women

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of women sleep around in their 20s and when they see the clock is ticking then they want to settle down in their 30s. And they have a high body count by then, so good guys don't want them. This doesn't apply to everyone so I'm I'm not stereotyping, but it's one of the main reasons. I'm older but get approached by younger women every day, more than 20 years difference, you have to ask them why. Because I'm tall and strong, maybe age doesn't matter to them? Maybe they just want to get laid?

crossdressingrihno · Answer

As someone who is only 20 I would much prefer to have women who are under 30 but if I were 40 I wouldn't mind dating a 40 year old woman
When it comes to age I prefer women who are between one to four years older than me

Levin · Answer

There's nothing wrong with older women. The issue is women who don't take care of themselves and sadly let themselves go. Which is probably at least 80% of women in their 30s.

penteractgaming · Answer

I prefer women that are around my age because theyve largely figured out what they want and who they are. What you look for changes as you age, or at least it did for me.

Bluemax · Answer

In my twenties I would have dated women in their thirties

Anonymous · Answer

I've already chosen to be alone regardless. High body counts and low morals = juice not worth the squeeze regardless of age..

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Leftovers? Thats a pretty bold statement. Many choose to be singld too

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Don't take the idiots of gag seriously

zagor · Answer

Don't believe everything you read on GaG.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm over 30 and I want someone my own age.

jimmy2 · Answer

30 to me is very young

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