Am I overacting/wrong for how I feel?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been involved with him for about 6 months/ish on and off and he told me “We don’t have a label because labels are dumb.” I told him I’m not going to let you kiss me goodnight or let you have sex with me IF we don’t have a label. I have more self respect for myself. I told him not to text me until he decides what he wants/IF he wants to commit.

[DaveJord]

No nothing wrong with that. I think you did the right thing but honestly it should of never of come to that. I you have to give someone and ultimatum then that's a clear red flag that this is not the guy for you.

I did this with a women I dated several times... were when went out had sex a few times... when ever I asked about our status they gave me the same stupid line about not being into labels. For me I wanted to know id we were just friends with benefits or working into a commit relationship or what? Few women from my experience in these situations wanted to label it a friends with benefits thing, but at the same time did wan to commit either. As guy that pissed me off, because I wanted to know if it was okay for me start dating other women or if she wanted it to monogamous and if she want it to be monogamous then I wanted a commitment. I would of been fine with either answer, but if she would "label" it in any way I would break it off and move on. Whenever they get evasive about "labeling" a relationship or being honest about what they wanted I would bail no questions asked.

I don't need those types of people in my life. if she could not be honest and say she wanted to keep it going, but still date other people.. then I don't need the hassle or anxiety in my life. If she could not get over herself to commit then I was not going to waste my time chasing after an insecure women playing games.

[ShadowMonarch]

You did the right thing... as a man he has responsibilities and if he can't commit to them... that just means he is devaluing you..

[LazerBean]

He doesn't want labels because he doesn't want to commit.

[Asker]

See I think it’s the same thing too. He tells me he wants me and there isn’t anybody else and he kisses me goodnight and tries to touch me and generally likes spending time with me and talking to me but he won’t commit to me. It’s beeb like this for 3 months.

[Asker]

Last night he told me, “I’m gonna tell my mom MY girlfriend …….……” So he’s implying I’m his girlfriend or sees me as his girlfriend but won’t actually ASK ME to be his girlfriend.

[Fireguy17]

good for you!
To me that seems kind of odd, but it would be nice to have some sort of a commitment after 6 months.

[legalboxers]

why should you doubt your feelings?

[In_Trance]

yes you are