What can you do to get guys to become interested in you?

Question

I know there are things that you can’t talk your way out of, like your appearance or your career or your education but I’m talking about the parts of your life that are able to control.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

You can control your appearance to an extent. Be clean, eat healthy and do exercise. Everyone will appreciate a healthy lifestyle. Career can tell them something about yourself. A leader, a hard worker, an ambitious person, etc... Education... no I don't think education matters all that much, that's a thing of when we were kids. But you can still choose to learn and study more. Knowledge can also be attractive.

Then there is personality. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Don't be afraid to be yourself, embrace being yourself. Be proud of who you are. A person who knows what he she wants and goes for it, is sexy, you can't deny that. Being funny, being a good listener, being trustworthy are all good things to have. Not small talk, but deep and personal. You only grow closer, once a person feels like they can tell you everything without being judged or ridiculed they will see you as more than just a friend, you'll become one of those close friends or more and before you know it they'll confess their love to you. If you're by their side during a hard time, they will remember that.

Body language, open welcoming gestures, a beautiful smile, turning your whole body towards them, leaning towards them, let them know they have your full attention. Gentle touching and teasing works too, but I wouldn't do that too often. I'm looking for a soulmate not a hookup.

Zeldaismyqueen · Accepted Answer

Invest in a nice pair of leather pants. I’m serious, you have to try it. It’s like magic.

razelove · Accepted Answer

On my end it'd be honesty, perky tits, and a willingness to be with me. That last one is a tough one. Most women get scared off at the step of "I have a wife and 4 kids, but don't worry, she knows all about it and it's cool."

So I guess honesty and being accepting, as like you said, you can't control your appearance, and unless it's objectively horrible, it's the attention I'd enjoy more anyway.

silkjames · Accepted Answer

All you can Do is just BE yourself talk about things you like too do how u are as a person or if you want to get whoever's attention just talk to them first ask about what there in too what routine they do in there day to day life:) just be you easy peezy lol!

ColHathi · Answer

Show interest in them and what they like. Appeal to their interests, whatever that might be. Some open-mindedness probably helps, lol. Any interest that you can share in and both like is sure to make them more interested, I bet.

Hmm... trying to think of other stuff that'd probably appeal to everyone... Offering food or being helpful is always nice, I reckon, lol. Maybe get them to open up about their hopes and dreams and see if there's any way to appeal to that.

Ofc if some of their interests, hopes or dreams revolve around girls or even porn 😱 One might have to reassure them somehow that it's something that's okay to share. Assuming ofc that it's safe to do so without the inquirer getting weird or judgmental about it.

Also, in my case, there's tons of stuff that I've always wanted to try or at least experience that I feel like I've never had the opportunity to, so it might be worth asking about that too.

DaveJord · Answer

Well be available to your partner not just emotional but physically. Most feel more emotional bonded with a women who makes herself physically available.

Be responsive to text and calls, participate in each others live. Make time for each other, to be together and not once or twice a week for bite to eat and a movie... make your time together count.

Yiannithelegend005 · Answer

As a visual guy I can't answer that for you as you're of that mindset that "you can't change the way you look"
I mean you can change your appearance and that is the number 1 thing that keeps me interested in a girl. If a girl isn't hot then sorry bruh but I find her uninteresting.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Just be optimistic about situations, be open to opportunities, start talking to guys, converse, do stuff together, make connections.

Bambalicious · Answer

Be yourself. If you act like someone you’re not then you’re not going to feel good about yourself. Once he figures out that you’ve been putting up a front then he may feel lied to and question the relationship. It’s always best to just be you.

Anonymous · Answer

You can definitely change your appearance. At least your clothes, get hair/nails done. Also find out what they like and attempt to join in. For example if sports just watch with him. If games play with him. If some weird fetish try it out. Maybe watch a movie you wouldn’t normally like. Just throwing ideas around.

Blaperk1 · Answer

All of those things, appearance, career, education... they can all be changed by the way. Insofar as getting guys interested - literally just talk to them. It is as simple as that, really.

Adronicus · Answer

We are visual creatures initially. I'd say eye contact, smile & if you're feeling particularly ballsey, touch / groom him (example, getting a hair of a shirt, make eye contact, 😃. That will get any red blooded males dander up.

Unlucky89 · Answer

Well I'll say just be yourself all the time even if its goofy. Guys like girls who are simple and true to themselves.

ChiTown33 · Answer

You can't! To try to get someone to like you is manipulation and that's wrong.  Just be a good human being.

zagor · Answer

Good grooming, good (positive) attitude, skills, interesting conversationalist, sense of humor. Also, as someone else said, drop them a clear hint you are interested.

dolemite89 · Answer

stay in good shape and actually be fun and bubbly to talk to, so many girls are boring and/or bitchy af

Gene9 · Answer

Be confident in your skin and also don't act needy

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Show interest in them we aren’t mind readers ya know

Anonymous · Answer

Flirt with them, or take an interests in what they like.

Ringstretch · Answer

Just you being you got my attention

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Usually it’s a pulse and steaming up a mirror

VV3ZZY · Answer

Ask lots of silly questions on gag

TheAfrikan · Answer

Basically you being you matters a lot to us.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Be a little slutty

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

Be yourself

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