Friends with benefits and other women?

[Anonymous]

I saw my friends with benefits or say I guy I was seeing meeting with his best friend's girlfriend who he is also good friends with. With her or his other female friends, he's so affectionate, talkative etc. He gave her a big hug and was gentle with her while they were video calling his friend/her boyfriend. But when I went to see him at the bar, he was waiting outside for me when I texted him that I'm almost there , drinking a beer but he didn't come to hug me or anything. It was me who hugged him and we went inside. He also only gives hugs till he needs something like sex etc and then stops when he gets it. Later on he told me he's not interested in a relationship so I blocked him. I also know that he was chasing another girl at his university whom he has not been successful in sleeping with and she's the main reason why he cuts off me because she's apparently his type and he wants her to ask him out again. So I don't get it. He leaves girls on read, is not open or friendly with me or other girls he's seeing but is very nice and affectionate with his female friends. How's this possible?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sorry but I will never understand the whole friends with benefits thing. Isn't the whole idea meant to be just a shag without emotion?
If you want the hugs and cuddles that go with a relationship, then it looks to me like you don't want friends with benefits either.

[Asker]

The guy i went on a date with saw me with a guy and is acting cold. he was again being all smiles and nice before he saw me when we chatted and he told me he was going to meet his friends girlfriend and he told me he was going to meet someone.
He asked me where I'm going and I told him I was going to get earphones.

Later on I saw my guy friend and we walked together. And while he was with the girl, he saw me with the guy friend.

After a week when I met him, he looked annoyed again and wouldn't talk to me in his own. I stood there and there was an awkward silence when he started talking. He was also looking pretty annoyed and when we were discussing the building closure due to bank holiday, he said the building is closed but I told him that student study space is open. To which he said " I will check if that's true".

His overall demeanor was not good and he gave me a fake smile too.

I dont know why he's acting like that. I feel as if he thought i lied to him about hetting earphones when i was going to neet a guy friend which isn't true. I bumped into my friend, i didn't go to meet him.

Is he not interested or jealous? He's tried to make me jealous in the past

[TommyMountainFigure]

Truth? From what I see, neither of you are suited to a friends with benefits relationship. Why not have a heart to heart with him and see if you can discuss exclusivity.. You might both be much happier..

[Kabluie]

sounds like you wanted a relationship, and sometimes in college we just wanted the friends with benefits and sometimes its with multiple people, or a non-mono relationship.

[Asker]

The guy i went on a date with saw me with a guy and is acting cold. he was again being all smiles and nice before he saw me when we chatted and he told me he was going to meet his friends girlfriend and he told me he was going to meet someone.
He asked me where I'm going and I told him I was going to get earphones.

Later on I saw my guy friend and we walked together. And while he was with the girl, he saw me with the guy friend.

After a week when I met him, he looked annoyed again and wouldn't talk to me in his own. I stood there and there was an awkward silence when he started talking. He was also looking pretty annoyed and when we were discussing the building closure due to bank holiday, he said the building is closed but I told him that student study space is open. To which he said " I will check if that's true".

His overall demeanor was not good and he gave me a fake smile too.

I dont know why he's acting like that. I feel as if he thought i lied to him about hetting earphones when i was going to neet a guy friend which isn't true. I bumped into my friend, i didn't go to meet him.

Is he not interested or jealous? He's tried to make me jealous in the past

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[Avicenna]

People in a friends with benefits want to have their cake and eat it too. If it’s not what you want, you should not waste your time.

[Asker]

The guy i went on a date with saw me with a guy and is acting cold. he was again being all smiles and nice before he saw me when we chatted and he told me he was going to meet his friends girlfriend and he told me he was going to meet someone.
He asked me where I'm going and I told him I was going to get earphones.

Later on I saw my guy friend and we walked together. And while he was with the girl, he saw me with the guy friend.

After a week when I met him, he looked annoyed again and wouldn't talk to me in his own. I stood there and there was an awkward silence when he started talking. He was also looking pretty annoyed and when we were discussing the building closure due to bank holiday, he said the building is closed but I told him that student study space is open. To which he said " I will check if that's true".

His overall demeanor was not good and he gave me a fake smile too.

I dont know why he's acting like that. I feel as if he thought i lied to him about hetting earphones when i was going to neet a guy friend which isn't true. I bumped into my friend, i didn't go to meet him.

Is he not interested or jealous? He's tried to make me jealous in the past

[Avicenna]

i don't understand why you are wasting your time with this person. He is a cheater and of course he's jealous. Move on from this clown.

[Asker]

How can you say he's jealous?

[Guy13]

He may see you as an Object with a specific function and purpose. He seems to be detached.

[Asker]

But why is he giving hugs and touching shoulders either female friends?,?

[Asker]

The guy i went on a date with saw me with a guy and is acting cold. he was again being all smiles and nice before he saw me when we chatted and he told me he was going to meet his friends girlfriend and he told me he was going to meet someone.
He asked me where I'm going and I told him I was going to get earphones.

Later on I saw my guy friend and we walked together. And while he was with the girl, he saw me with the guy friend.

After a week when I met him, he looked annoyed again and wouldn't talk to me in his own. I stood there and there was an awkward silence when he started talking. He was also looking pretty annoyed and when we were discussing the building closure due to bank holiday, he said the building is closed but I told him that student study space is open. To which he said " I will check if that's true".

His overall demeanor was not good and he gave me a fake smile too.

I dont know why he's acting like that. I feel as if he thought i lied to him about hetting earphones when i was going to neet a guy friend which isn't true. I bumped into my friend, i didn't go to meet him.

Is he not interested or jealous? He's tried to make me jealous in the past

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you might not be ready for a friends with benefits situation.

[Asker]

The guy i went on a date with saw me with a guy and is acting cold. he was again being all smiles and nice before he saw me when we chatted and he told me he was going to meet his friends girlfriend and he told me he was going to meet someone.
He asked me where I'm going and I told him I was going to get earphones.

Later on I saw my guy friend and we walked together. And while he was with the girl, he saw me with the guy friend.

After a week when I met him, he looked annoyed again and wouldn't talk to me in his own. I stood there and there was an awkward silence when he started talking. He was also looking pretty annoyed and when we were discussing the building closure due to bank holiday, he said the building is closed but I told him that student study space is open. To which he said " I will check if that's true".

His overall demeanor was not good and he gave me a fake smile too.

I dont know why he's acting like that. I feel as if he thought i lied to him about hetting earphones when i was going to neet a guy friend which isn't true. I bumped into my friend, i didn't go to meet him.

Is he not interested or jealous? He's tried to make me jealous in the past