Why does a significant other get jealous if you used to have a crush on someone else before them?

[Anonymous]

[maximumpower]

believe you'll find it depends upon the person and their level of maturity/confidence.
would venture to say that those most predisposed to jealousy fall into that category.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's called immaturity.. They usually grow out of that!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for picking my answer.

[JustAnj]

I understand what your trying to say in regards to meeting people and dating them before knowing your guy.

Though you should not invalidate your partner simply to be right or to make his opinion lesser just because yours is a different perspective in the matter.

Your partner wants to feel like they are at your level and you are at thiers. Like a balance, in order to have this balance you need to validate his feelings and regard him no matter how immature or insecure it seems to you. Being an insensitive partner will not allow your relationship to blossom.

Example of good balance and validation:

This person was a past interest in my life, I would have loved it if we had known each other sooner, I am really into you. Your the only guy on my mind now. Kiss on the cheek.

You do not need to get worked up, just be more supportive and sentive to his feelings. ❤️

[SaartjieJane]

Normal to have had a past, I think some people would wonder if their partner is still attracted to their past partners, probably then overthink, mind running wild wondering if their partner thinks of them or would ever go back to them/they’re just settling with you and so on. Some people also struggle with the thought of their partner being with someone else. I’ve been there once before and it was a terrible mindset/way of thinking to have. Definitely done recommend

[CallmeTheKnight]

There are things you shouldn't just outright discuss with a partner. A crush is all that, a crush and if it's always a problem, then you learned two things.

1. Keep your mouth shut about romantic or sexual feelings you had about someone in the past.
2. They have to accept it as well.

[IJhonnyI]

Because most likely they were your second choice and they feel some type of way unless you didn't know your S. O before the other guy

[Asker]

Or that is called being jealous because everyone has choices when it comes to dating.

[Asker]

Or that is called being jealous because everyone has choices when it comes to dating. Nobody's first choice is their final in all honesty.

[IJhonnyI]

Look nothing changes my statement you either chose him after or before regardless yes people have choices but guess what people who have been chosen second clearly there's a reason too it yes or no, and whatever that reason was clearly it's because you saw something else in the other one before your saw it in your "significant other"

[IJhonnyI]

So I don't know what your trying too tell me but clear it up because your all over the place😂

[Asker]

I'm just saying that people should not be getting butt hurt if you used to like someone else before you even knew them.

[IJhonnyI]

See that's what I was saying see that's were we are both wrong I said IF YOU KNEW THEM BOTH AT THE TIME

[IJhonnyI]

This is were you miss read my answer

[IJhonnyI]

Nope I never said that I said if you knew them both at the same time and chose him over the other the first time

[Asker]

Even if i did know them both at the same time if one relationship didn't work out it wouldn't make any sense to get butt hurt because you were someone's second choice. That sounds like some kids stuff wanting to be number 1. You're not always going to be the first one picked in life. So fuck them if they get mad they get over it it is called life.

[IJhonnyI]

See this is were I come too the conclusion were I'm not surprised if someone left you😂 I don't have time too deal with a feminist okay please I would explain you just wouldn't get it cause your so in your own world you would think it's and uneducated response clearly your just uneducated yourself and your mad cause you didn't get the answer you wanted sorry but not everyone is gonna agree with you because you are a female listen here there is a huge difference between the 2 and if your brain can't comprehend it I can't help you it's not about being offended it's about knowing what you are worth but okay "smart one"

[Asker]

I get mad is because you only made that comment because I am a woman. And you don't think about men cheating on their wives and having other women break up their marriage.

[IJhonnyI]

See what the fuck now your assuming, see your so full of yourself that's why I'm talking too you like this I've texting plenty of women on here and I was nothing but nice too them you want proof people that assume piss me off and that's what you did assume that I talk too women like that and what was your reason for this assumption because I'm a male

[IJhonnyI]

You know what stop talking your actually rude and disgraceful

[Asker]

I know that I am right because people never say anything to the man for doing what he chooses to do either it is good or bad. You just said that it was wrong for me to do it because I am a woman. Usually people are not mature enough to be together until they are older. Young people really don't know what they want and that is true. So getting butthurt about being someones second choice isn't the same as cheating because they didn't really know that the other option wasn't the right one.

[IJhonnyI]

I never said anything about what you said 1st of all I never said you were cheating 2nd of all it's about knowing your worth 3rd of all when did I say because you are a women I'm saying this your just an assumer and that is enough for me too say that you talk out of your ass do you even know what that means 4th all your also ASSUMING that I don't say this stuff too males you know how dumb you sound

[IJhonnyI]

IF everyone, IF, everyone based females off you life would be horrible luckily there's good women out here with a stable state of mind clearly you have problem but okay keep believing what you make up in your head

[IJhonnyI]

And yea I'm young and also yea I've been through a lot but guess what IM YOUNG AND I STILL HAVE MORE COMMON SENSE THEN YOU DO

[Asker]

Because it is usually true people don't say anything to the guy for any choice they make even if it is bad. And young people really don't know what they want that is why most of the time relationships don't work out because they are too young to know what they want. Knowing your worth doesn't mean for you to be a stuck up bitch. Just because someone wanted to give you another chance. They didn't really know that their first choice wasn't going to work out. It takes getting into a relationship with someone to really know them like that.

[Asker]

You don't know if you are going to marry someone by just knowing them as a friend if you don't live with them. People act different at home than in public.

[IJhonnyI]

What don't you get about assuming who I am you literally don't know shit about me but still feels entitled enough to assume about me like you said "everyone does clearly you have just been shown like 2% of the world and thinks that's how it is for the other 98% so clearly you don't know shit sucks your older wonder how uneducated that brain of yours is clearly it's beyond back tracked

[IJhonnyI]

See these are the women I feel bad for uneducated like you, stuck in one part of the world, like you mmmm what else clearly you can't keep a boyfriend and then you wanna talk about my relationship I was dating my girlfriend longer then you have dated anyone I bet but nah, I'm not even gonna speak on that clearly your too mature you think your mature you wouldn't have continued this foolery go on keep proving my point thinking your correct when I can ask anyone I know that's 10 times older then you that your just a lost feminist

[Asker]

Oh you are a 16 year boy you learn one day that the world doesn't evolve around you can't make everything about yourself because most of the time people are going to choose for themselves than you. Clearly you haven't lived long telling me that I am an idiot you are the damn idiot because you think everyone is going to be thinking about you.

[IJhonnyI]

See there you go again another assumption because someone here can't handle the truth of what she is 😂😂😂feel better yet a "16 year old" proving her wrong what's funny is you keep assuming things but you can't admit it shows your immature your so sad it's funny cause your an actual stuck up person and everything your throwing at me is what YOU are clearly, just can't admit it can you and I already told you you want me too show someone I know that's ten times older then you so u could look even more stupid then you already do

[Asker]

And I see your stupid ass now years from now crying that your relationship you are in now didn't work out this is reality not fantasy land. Nobody stays in one spot in life people come and go all the time out of your life. Go as old people are the still with their boyfriend or girlfriend when the were 16 majority them will say that they didn't know what they wanted. You are just an entitled brat and think that this is a Disney movie that came to life.

[Asker]

And I know better to think that every guy I date there is a possibility that I may not marry them. I'm not jueniville minded like you. I have realistic expectations unlike you.

[IJhonnyI]

😂😂😂😂u know how educated you are

[Asker]

More educated than you are at least I don't believe that you will have your happily ever after right at 16. I know that people are really ready for love when they get older munch older than you. You don't know anything you are still a kid.

[Asker]

This isn't Walt Disney

[Asker]

So go to the right universe

[IJhonnyI]

It's actually pointless too keep going back and forth for someone who's old then me you clearly are sadly stupid

[IJhonnyI]

Your right this isn't Walt Disney but clearly that's the place you chose too stay in

[IJhonnyI]

😂😂😂

[Asker]

Tells me how smart you are calling someone else stupid and disrespectful you are to older people.

[Asker]

Go get an education because I graduated highschool and went to college unlike you.

[IJhonnyI]

Your still dumb and uneducated

[IJhonnyI]

And yes I talk to uneducated older people like this cause they need some education I am not giving my respect to a spoiled piece of shit like you😂😂😂

[Asker]

Yeah only a dumbass themselves will call someone else uneducated to make themselves feel better for how uneducated they are.

[Asker]

I have a bachelor's degree and could get a master's if I wanted to do fuck you.

[IJhonnyI]

Wow it's sad how hypocritical you can be😂😂

[Asker]

Why because you probably won't even go to college yourself if you did you probably drop out

[IJhonnyI]

See for someone with an imaginary bachelor's degree you are such a immature shit head did I hit a nerve or something idiot😂

[IJhonnyI]

Your so uneducated and the more you type the more you show it keep typing retard

[Asker]

And you can say you know your worth but that is subjective. Not everyone thinks like you so what you think that you are worth may not even cost a penny to someone else's eye.

[IJhonnyI]

Ohhh wow I'm so offended you think you got me your literally making me cry of laughter keep going depressed immature fuck come on keep making me laugh please 😂🤣🤣

[Asker]

Do I need to send you a picture of my college degree to prove to you that I am wise and that you are the stupid ass and why would I listen to anything you have to say about relationships if you haven't lived that long to know how people are in relationships. You don't realize how hard it gets in relationships all you are in is a fantasy land of a relationship. I don't see your ass walking down the aisle marrying your girlfriend. Why don't you get married and than come back calling me a stupid ass because you are butthurt because I am telling the truth that that isn't how life works your first choice is y going to be your final choice.

[Asker]

Not going

[IJhonnyI]

Keep typing dumbass😂😂😂 Love how you think age is everything sadly you forgot you need a actual functioning brain too survive looks like you don't have that clear too see someone dumped you and I hit a nerve I don't care what you listen too and what you don't your just an idiot and I don't wanna waste any more time I do want too tell you tho your stupid whoever chooses too date you isn't right in the head and sad to say I just told someone that's 10 times older then you and she's a female by the way and she said you are stupid and illogical so what are you gonna say now lmao and for someone that has "such a future" you sure spend a lot of time this app find an actual life 😂 idiot, idiot, idiot so sad females like this exist and dudes that's actually waste there time too date someone as spoiled as you are but oh well it's the world we living and keep saying I live in an imaginary world if you knew what I actually went through you've would've taken yourself off of this earth with how weak your brain actually is so keep rambling lmao I said what I needed too say that are actual facts I got no reason to get upset with someone that is "older" and immature still so that just proves my point your a waste of time for anyone who comes in contact with you and ofc your gonna keep making things up but what can I do clearly your just gonna keep doing that

[IJhonnyI]

And I already got an older person's opinion that you are clearly simple minded and retarded 😂😂

[IJhonnyI]

Oh big whoop you went too school but I hope you know that doesn't help you for situations when you are in actual danger what are you gonna do call your teacher when your getting shot at no I don't think so 😂fucking dumbass you must be and you must have been bullied in school and taking it out on the rest of the world because you couldn't do it when you were younger doesn't matter either way you stayed with a young and dumb mentality doesn't go for me tho I grew up way different then u did clearly I wasn't given everything in a silver platter like you did but now it's time too actually grow up and stop being simple minded

[IJhonnyI]

Learn that not everyone is stupid and retarded as you are when young 🤣

[IJhonnyI]

And if you still respond thinking your correct I'm done talking too the idiot literally I'm gonna stop responding and leave you talking to the wall

[IJhonnyI]

You done

[IJhonnyI]

Thank you, watch you respond another time or day, I swear if you do I'm just gonna laugh, thanks for the laughs tho 😂 seriously it was hella funny running into a Karen like you in 😂👍🏼

[Asker]

Is that why your dick is so small that you decide to belittle someone else's intelligence to feel better about how tiny your penis is.

[Lionman95]

Because they feel like you´re comparing them with your ex. It´s the feeling that you might have enjoyed yourself more with your ex than with them.

[HawkPerception]

Well it's simple. If they know you liked someone before them, they'd wonder if you're still attracted to that person. It's potential competition.

[Whatever2929292]

I don't think that makes any sense lol. I have no idea but I think MOST people have had a crush before they came along

[WhitneySnow]

Cause they don’t like thinking you used to like someone else

[SeekingVirginWife]

Yes because Women retain living DNA of every man they have had sexual encounters with.

[PatriceONeal]

That's not something you would bring up if those feelings didn't remain..

[Intothevoid666]

That’s pretty dam immature lol. What are we 12 years old

[RuthlessAggression]

Because they'll feel like you settled

[mandyfire98]

Insecurity

[IJhonnyI]

You basically claimed because I'm a man I talked to you rudely what type of like what whos aren't I can't even type I'm done (and I just realized I accidentally texting the wrong person sorry this was meant for the anonymous asker) forgive me if your reading this right now

[mandyfire98]

Haha it's ok.

[Asker]

He is just talking crap because I don't live in a fantasy world like he does.

[IJhonnyI]

Really your gonna keep going on this chat don't intoxicate other women because you are intoxicated 😂😂😂

[petitedollbabee]

Toxic insecurity.

[peedy]

Insecurity

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

Insecurities.