Guys, Would you book her a hotel?

[Anonymous]

If you had the cash for it and a girl you had been speaking to for two years online from far away, wanted to meet you. Would you pay for her to stay in a hotel to meet you, if she paid the travel experiences?

Updates

+1 y

Thank you everyone for the input. Wish men and women spoke the same language

[Table4YTwo]

no i would have her come to my abode

making her stay in a hotel is stupid and pricey gas is 5-6$ a gallon groceries can be 200-300$ and you want me to pay 100s a night?

I will clean off the couch in the living room and you can sleep on it.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion

[Th3ft]

Yeah! If she wanted to come out and meet me I would be all over that.

[Asker]

Do you find it strange, if you invite the girl to stay at your place, but she request a hotel as she is not familiar with you yet?

[Th3ft]

I mean I can see why some guys would be weird about that. But it really shouldn’t be an issue. Like it is kind of a thing about offering her a security blanket that you know she won’t use. It might feel weird but it should be well worth that cost to let her know that you want her to feel comfortable with you.

[Asker]

100 is how I feel

[Th3ft]

So did you have this happen recently? Did he accept getting you a room?

[Asker]

He said no. He also wants me to visit him but many times he won’t answer the phone to let me say hi

[Th3ft]

You know what then. He isn’t worth your time!! You deserve the respect of his answering the phone when you call and of him getting you a hotel room if you are going to go all the way to see him.
I lost my girl for similar reasons. And now I know… she gets respect!

[Asker]

Yeah he’s stubborn so I don’t see him changing his opinion. He blames me and says “You didn’t want to go anyway.”

[Th3ft]

Wow! Sounds like he is being a real pain!

[Asker]

Is it about ego? If he won’t answer the phone, why would I visit him?

[Th3ft]

No I think it is just that he is a stuck up prick who just thinks about his own needs.

[Th3ft]

Lol! Thanks! Sorry that he was such a loser!!

[Asker]

Not your fault. It’s mind boggling that he thinks he can ignore my calls and I will come running to him?

[HazyDaze63]

Yes. I have actually done it. She has returned the favor as well.

[Asker]

That’s sweet of her. Thank you

[Anonymous]

Am I getting lucky? If so then she can just stay at my place.

[Asker]

What if she requests a hotel, whilst she pays for travel?

[Opinion Owner]

Depends on how long she’s staying. Also depends on where she’s staying. I’m not paying hundreds of dollars just to visit.

[Asker]

Thank you for opinion 🙂

[Noodle_fan]

i am not into ldr on first place , there are tons of single people nearby

[Asker]

Ok thanks for your opinion

[Lunatic1]

If she's paying for all the other travel expenses and I can afford it, I guess I would be down.

[Asker]

So, if a guy doesn’t pay, and only gives the option of staying at his place. Would you think this is unfair?

[Lunatic1]

I'd be extremely hesitant because he may be expecting something to happen if all he offers is his place.

[Sonorous]

I'd want to split unless one of us is broke at the moment.

[FunkyMonkee]

Why couldn't she just come here?

[Asker]

Only purely on the basis of being uncomfortable until she knows you better in person.

[JohnK123]

Depends if it’s a 100 dollar room or 500 haha

[Asker]

Cheap one :)

[JohnK123]

Well at my age I don’t have 500 laying around hhaha

[Asker]

I know. I just wanted everyone to answer from a man in my situations perspective (both in 30s)

[Asker]

You are a bit young for this question. But thanks for trying 🙂

[JohnK123]

Lmao ik

[Nahid1707]

How far are you travelling?

[Asker]

Thousands of miles. Genuinely

[Nahid1707]

i see and i understand

[Asker]

Do you think I’m asking too much for a hotel?

[Nahid1707]

No you aren’t being rude

[Asker]

He won’t do it. This is why I ask

[Nahid1707]

I’m sorry for that

[Nahid1707]

Update i agree with you
Communicating and agreeing on stuff is easy

[Asker]

Although it should be easy. It shouldn’t be this hard. It’s simple stuff

[Nahid1707]

Very true
Is there a update? Did you already travel?

[Asker]

No I think he’s ignoring me lol

[Nahid1707]

Oh I’m sorry
Good you didn’t travel though

[Asker]

Yeah, just frustrating. Thanks for the kind words

[Nahid1707]

Yea i understand that

You’re welcome

[FilmGuy93]

No, probably not.

[Asker]

Ok thank you

[exitseven]

absolutely

[RobEurope]

Lol no.

[Asker]

Even if she paid hundreds to travel to you?

[jimmy2]

Yes I would

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion

[jimmy2]

You are welcome

[SpaceGalaxy]

yes, or course