How to know if someone is manipulating you, or just scared of being hurt?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Easy… they play the victim card to get you to do something you’d usually not do. They make you feel guilty for something you know is right. When you choose to not listen to them they get upset at you for not listening to them. You know deep down inside something is off.

[Jamie05rhs]

More context, please?

[Asker]

He blows hot and cold and gives off mixed signals. Sometimes it seems as though he's playing mind games, but he has been hurt in the past

[Jamie05rhs]

Then he's probably not manipulating you. He's probably just nervous. He doesn't trust you yet.

[Jamie05rhs]

What kind of mixed signals does he give off? Can you give a few examples?

[Asker]

for example. He implied he had feelings for me and then the next me one too he started ghosting me. He totally cut me off. Then a week later, he messaged me as if he'd never ghosted me. When I messaged him back, he was cold towards me and said he didn't have time to read my full text. Now he's being distant again

[Asker]

Next moment ***

[Jamie05rhs]

Did you respond to him when he expressed feelings for you? Or did you ignore it and change the subject?

[Asker]

I let him know how I felt. That I had feelings for him.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, you did? What did you say?

[jahaims]

If they are looking for pity instead of sympathy.