Do you ever think that someone would have been better off dating you and not the people they did?

[MysticDevice]

I've been thinking a lot lately. There's a very close friend of mine who has a habit of falling for the douchebag bad-boys. She's miserable every time and gets overcome with anxiety. The other day I couldn't help but think that she would have been far better off with me. I would have given her more compassion and adoration then the other guys could've even dreamed of. And I would have treated her with far more respect. I'd have treated her as a girlfriend and not a playmate or fuckbuddy. Seem like the old saying holds true. The douche bags always win and the genuine people get left in the dust.

And just to clear this up right away, She may have been better off with me but it still wouldn't have worked. We just have different life plans.

Ok rant over.

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

I did with a guy in high school. In the end though it was for the best that we went out separate ways though. Though he was a virgin he was always trying to get some with any girl. He ended up with feelings for me but later on gave away his first kiss to another girl and they ended up together. I somehow convinced myself this guy was for me I don't know. When they split he went back to me for a short time but then started hitting on a friend of mine and she got interested. I was dumb for hanging on

[DizzyDesii]

I think im better at emotional support in a relationship than most but physical is where i doubt myself. If theyre expecting a bunch of quality time daily OR lots of sexual favors very early in the relationship, I don't know if i can be that for them

[Chazmatazz269]

When i was younger, yeah. I had similar experiences and thoughts. But i was wrong, and you probably are too. Short of actual physical abuse, you can’t know a relationship with you would have benefited her more in the long run. Especially since you acknowledged that it wouldn’t have worked out long term. We tend to learn more from our failures than from our successes. She probably needed to learn some lessons that she might not have learned from a kinder, gentler man.