Do you believe a person's effort is a reflection of their interest in you?

[Anonymous]

or can someone be interested and still not put much effort in?

[Guy13]

For sure…there is no doubt about it. It shows the true place in your life that you hold. It can be devastating BUT knowing on the front end saves lots of pain down the road 🤷🏻‍♂️

[England4eva]

Us girls only digest the “best bits” of a relationship. It’s our default, others call it rose tinted glasses.

[Guy13]

@England4eva Yes, this is good too. And the right guy recognizes graciousness and holds onto that :-)

[Losalt]

They *can* be interested without said effort.
But that usually indicate other issues, like mental health problems in my experience...

[jhl_x]

What form of effort you mean? Effort towards life in general or towards the person of interest? These are different things.

[Asker]

Towards the person

[jhl_x]

Then it's obvious that it is, at least for me. For some people, what might vary is how much effort is put. I've dealt with different women throughout the years that didn't understand the concept the way I did, therefore they wouldn't get out of their way to get to me the same way I did for them. The fact that this happens is already a message in itself.

[Asker]

do you think if someone blows hot and cold is disinterested,?

[jhl_x]

Yeah. I deal with it daily. For me, any attitude that's not a "FUCK YEAH" is a no for me. Don't take people's words as something serious, but look at their actions.

[Asker]

Yeah, his actions tell me he's disinterested 🙁

[CuriousMufuxka]

I don't believe that's relative. Well at the very least could be determined on many factors.. Work related, physical attributes, mental attraction, clothing/tattoos/body decorations, status like rich/distinguished, etc.