If the girl you are interested in tells you she was raped, would you think she's not smart and see it as a red flag?

[Anonymous]

[DannyUk2017]

Not at all, i think...
1) She's open about herself.
2) She hints at the person to not take things fast.
3) She tries to say "don't hurt me" like others.
4) She points it out that no sexual encounter will take place before she is fully confident in herself and her partner.
5) She "tell" the other half to think/reflect in next moves if he wants things to go further.

[Asker]

I'm asking because my brother went on a date with girl and she told him that. He came back from the date telling us all the red flags she had and how he's going to end it with her. One of the red flags was that she was raped. And I was disgusted when I heard that. I'm like... Um that's not her fault. I said that even Muslim women with the hijab get raped and does that mean she's not smart
even when she dresses modestly? And he didn't really have an opinion about it. It made me really angry and disgusted in him. Like he has some major red flags too. He is a recovered alcoholic but he messes with pain pills till now. And in his last relationship his ex girlfriend and him would beat each other up. He's such a male chauvinist when it comes to gender roles. Basically the girl already has to be traditional in order for that to happen but I know he'll force the women out there that aren't traditional to fit what he wants. I'm just disappointed in him and I know he believes that way because of my dad. And dad and I don't have a good relationship because he's so mean to me and treats me like dirt just because he hates women. Sorry for unloading all this info on your reply. I am venting. Lol 🥲

[DannyUk2017]

I perfectly understand, is good to let it out! Is good to vent... but about you'r brother he sounds like a jerk to be honest...

[DaddyDiablo]

Honestly I feel hatred for the person who raped so said s/o but I've dated and gotten with chicks who have been raped n honestly get kinda protective n just by they're way of comfortability n being almost raped a few times I don't know I felt like kicking their asses n almost did but I don't know it's kinda wack in my opinion...

[LexiXide]

I think someone would be really crazy to think that

[Staximus]

That depends on if she put herself in a dangerous situation or not

[Asker]

What would that look like? If you don't mind giving an example.

[Staximus]

Like talking unnecessary risks with your personal safety

[Staximus]

It's pretty self-explanatory. How do you not know what I'm talking about? Women don't need to take unnecessary risks with their personal safety. The world is not fucking Disneyland, there are bad people out there. Like girls at my work walking home by themselves from the bar at 2 a. m. when they could spend $5 on a taxi or Uber. Like my niece sitting in her car by herself smoking weed in a park parking at midnight when she could just smoke weed in her driveway. People with the common sense of a chicken often find themselves in dangerous situations.

[Staximus]

I'm not saying getting raped is her fault. I'm just saying it's a red flag if a woman has no concept of personal safety, because you will always have to worry about if she's ok or not. Like she needs an adult babysitter or something

[MangoBob]

It doesn’t mean she’s not smart, but the guy should be aware that she is going to have intimacy and trust issues with ALL men for decades.

[Philyouup]

No, a woman that is raped is a victim of a crime perpetrated by a lowlife fucking piece of trash. Blaming a woman no matter how small the blame, for her rape is misogynistic

[Hardworkingguy]

Well I believe that's a very unfortunate experience and I would never consider it her fault.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Nope. She’s a victim. It would be wrong to think like that

[In_Trance]

Red flag, yes but it has nothing to do with her intelligence

[FilmGuy93]

Nope. I was assaulted, myself. I could never hold that against someone

[Tommy789]

I would be afraid to touch her out of fear I might trigger a bad memory

[AmeerX]

No, I don't think my love is that weak

[Wise4myage]

No, its lame to think like that.

[FunkyMonkee]

Why? Most likely, it wasn't her fault!

[ProVox]

No, she's a victim.

[Zolly99999]

No not at all.. it was not her fault..