Why is my guy scared to initiate in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

I was the one that asked him out and made the move to get him to date me but why doesn't he initiate more

[Smoothing]

He is probably in contemplation/decision mode. The fact that you asked him out probably took him by surprise as well. It is probably just sinking in. He will ease in to it. Don't rush him or try to start doing things to force him to initiate. Once he gets there mentally, he will begin to initiate.

[Asker]

Yes when we met up for our date I could see him staring at me all night wanting to kiss me and he even told me in his head he was wanting to do it so bad

[20yearsolder]

Sounds to me like he's laid-back guy, maybe he's been rejected enough in his life that he doesn't want to initiate. If someone wants him they will initiate. Just a thought

[Smoothing]

This is also a plausible explanation

[Asker]

I'm his first proper girlfriend and first girl who showed real interest he says

[20yearsolder]

Okay, so maybe he doesn't know what the hell to do. Teach him. Hey you need to take some initiative in this relationship. I don't want to be the one always having to ask you to go on a date or whatever it is you're asking him to do

[Smoothing]

Well, then like I said, let him ease into it. He will get there.

[Anonymous]

Either he's not that attracted to you or he is like many guys that are growing tired and resentful of always having to take the lead all the damn time, having to lead and progress things all the damn time, they want to know what it feels like to finally be pursued by a woman for once

[Asker]

He admitted he was scared to make a move. Actually blo was the one that asked him out first

[Opinion Owner]

Blo? What does that mean?

[Asker]

Typo sorry I meant "i"

[Opinion Owner]

And you said he has never dated anyone until he met you?

[FilmGuy93]

two reasons:

1. You set a precedent of initiating when you took charge and started dating him.

2. He's comfortable and doesn't have any reason to change things.

[Dkc123]

Men of all races thought/questioned the same thing about women since the begining of time..

[TroyDT]

Inexperience. Fear of rejection. Laziness. A combination of the aforementioned.

[Anonymous]

Ask him. We wouldn't know.

[maximumpower]

Got burned.
Only takes once.