Girls, Can you rate my online dating profile description?

[Anonymous]

I continue to struggle to find a date. I feel like I just suck at this, but noone will just tell me I'm ugly. Therefore, I need to address other things in my profile that seem to repulse the quality women I want to date. Below is my description.

"I am: Highly and regularly physically active, goal oriented, dark comedy seeking, open minded, kink friendly and adventure seeking.

She should: Have a career, but has also found herself, be emotionally stable, appreciative of various arts, respectful, but possibly a bit feisty, and able to hold a conversation."

Updates

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Update. Made a few changes.

I am: Highly and regularly physically active, goal oriented, dark comedy seeking, open minded, kink friendly and adventure seeking. Additionally, stabilized with a career, car, and house.

She should: Have a career, be self-aware, be emotionally stable, appreciative of various arts, respectful, but possibly a bit feisty, and ideally, able to hold a conversation. And yes, I just utilized the oxford comma. Come at me!

[AmandaYVR]

Your write-up is fine. I don't think you need to change anything. Your lack of success with online dating has very little to do with you specifically. It's not successful for most people. Don't take it personally.

But good job on the self--reflection, and I commend you for working at your bio wording. It is important. Studies have found that females read the words in others' bios much more than males do. Males are more picture-oriented. Pinks read, spend more time assessing, and are more careful and particular. (They also can be, with receiving the bulk of the contact.)

[Asker]

I appreciate the input. Just wanting to make sure I cover all my bases.

[SueShe]

There are a few things that I would change in your profile.

1. What is highly physically active? The word "highly" may be confusing.

2. "Kink friendly" may imply that you have weird sexual fantasies.

3. "Adventure seeking" could be (mis) understood as being careless or wanting sexual adventures.

4. "Stabilized" is not the proper word to describe to have a stable work or life.

5. Careful with the word "career" because career oriented people tend to prioritize their work over their relation.

Now, if she also should have a career, you are going on a head-on collision because 2 people that prioritize their career will never be able to find a stable relationship.

Also, the word "Oxford" is capitalized. Finally, what do you mean to say when you state "Come at me"?

[Asker]

I'm not answering every question here, but thanks for the input.