Why do I get so frustrated and depressed hearing about other women complain about men? I feel like I’m having good experiences and it feels negative?

[Anonymous]

For instance my friend invited me to be on a group on Facebook about warning other women about the same men we swipe on dating apps and other girls’ experiences with them. Especially the men on dating apps they encounter who play them and several others. I feel like they’re low quality women who can’t find guys who treat them well or respect them. I have gained a lot of confidence and self love and notice that the guys who court me on dates are gentleman and so I don’t bother with guys who treat me like scum.

[LazerBean]

Yes, it's definitely annoying. I have yet to meet someone who says stuff like "there are no good men/women" who wasn't their own biggest obstacle. They always have some glaring problem that they either refuse to fix or are too stupid to recognize that they even have, which repells all the decent peoyaway instantly.

[LazerBean]

People away*

[Asker]

Exactly. When your energy is right and you’re emotionally healthy you’ll steer so many crappy men away more easily.

[FilmGuy93]

Because you're probably a more emotionally healthy person than the women around you. To be totally real, men are many thousands of times easier to date than women. I've spoken to many lesbians on this subject.

The idea that any heterosexual woman could rationalize the belief that men are complicated to date is a masterclass in projection.

[Asker]

That’s exactly what I mean on the topic of “emotionally healthy.” I feel like there’s a reason some women are targets of these perpetually toxic men and can’t unwind the pattern. I get it if you run into shitty men here and there but ever since I’ve worked on my self esteem and mental health state I notice that I am getting higher caliber men who take me more seriously and I don’t even have the time of day for any men who mistreat me. I hate how many women have given up on dating and have a negative mindset. There are good guys out there but their energy isn’t going to attract them.

[FilmGuy93]

Yup! I’m sure you probably encounter plenty of toxic men in life, but they run away when they see that you aren’t going to entertain their insanity. I’m glad to hear that you have seen such an improvement in life!

[devilish-cutie]

you seem to judgy, a lot of people are not that good at recognizing how a person s, besides someone can always trick you and its not your fault. There are so many guys pretending to be decent just to get what they want