Well a lot of times I go through a lot of negative self talk whether it be at work, approaching women, or in social gatherings. Most of the times I don’t know what to say or wondering if what I say makes sense and is accurate (hopefully not sounding like a complete idiot). I am going to focus mainly on approaching women. When it comes to this it is really pathetic because I’m 37 and still have a hard time approaching women. This is due to feeling like most of the ones I would love to approach are out of my league. 99% of the time they don’t really notice I’m around, and I just can’t figure out how to really grab their attention. Not to mention keeping their interest, if I get lucky. I have this feeling of inferiority around them and can’t speak properly. There are a lot of questions I would ask, but feel like they’re inappropriate. Then always coming off as I’m interviewing them instead if trying to have a fun conversation. I always tell myself they’re not interested and just being friendly, hard on my interpretation of the interaction. There have been times someone says that a girl likes me and I should approach. I just can’t figure it out. Today my folks enter like go talk to this girl I thought was beautiful, I felt awkward and tried. She was walking away at one point (a thing that tends to happen a lot with me), or they just seem like I’m wasting their time. So I just said have a good day and left. I just don’t know what to do or if I’ll ever figure this out.
Can’t stop from feeling less than with women?
Well a lot of times I go through a lot of negative self talk whether it be at work, approaching women, or in social gatherings. Most of the times I don’t know what to say or wondering if what I say makes sense and is accurate (hopefully not sounding like a complete idiot). I am going to focus mainly on approaching women. When it comes to this it is really pathetic because I’m 37 and still have a hard time approaching women. This is due to feeling like most of the ones I would love to approach are out of my league. 99% of the time they don’t really notice I’m around, and I just can’t figure out how to really grab their attention. Not to mention keeping their interest, if I get lucky. I have this feeling of inferiority around them and can’t speak properly. There are a lot of questions I would ask, but feel like they’re inappropriate. Then always coming off as I’m interviewing them instead if trying to have a fun conversation. I always tell myself they’re not interested and just being friendly, hard on my interpretation of the interaction. There have been times someone says that a girl likes me and I should approach. I just can’t figure it out. Today my folks enter like go talk to this girl I thought was beautiful, I felt awkward and tried. She was walking away at one point (a thing that tends to happen a lot with me), or they just seem like I’m wasting their time. So I just said have a good day and left. I just don’t know what to do or if I’ll ever figure this out.
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I am writing a new book and to prepare for it I am in the candle isle of Target and Kroger on a daily basis approaching women. What I have found is when you don't have any expectation for the encounter it becomes real easy. You are too much in your head about the outcome. Just do it for the data. Something to try.
These are symptoms of not knowing who you are, not knowing your life purpose, not being on your life purpose and focusing on what should be less of a priority (chasing women). When you know your life purpose and who you truly are, when you talk to women it will flow naturally. Your absolute love for life and being on your purpose will create an attractive energy, and naturally, chasing her will not be your priority, thus making her desire you more.
Men desire women simply through seeing them, being around them and their feminine energy. But women desire men differently (mostly). It's less looks orientated (still important) so they are attracted to your masculine energy which comes from knowing yourself. In short. That which you do behind closed doors is celebrated in public. If you aren't doing what you love (life purpose), then you will always have a more difficult time.
Just imagine that every single time a woman had the pleasure of your company, it could completely transform her life in some way due to your life purpose... do you think you'd feel inferior? run out of things to talk about? worry about keeping her entertained? Nope...
I can relate more than you will know. I hope you get the guidance needed 🙏