Divorced so out of dating scene for some time. Been “dating/friending” same woman for a about 4 months. On our first few outings I asked if it was ok if I paid she agreed with “ as long as it’s ok if I buy when I want too.” No problem. We are both content to take the relationship slow and are exclusive friends moving into more than friends going out on average 1 per week
I've continued paying for meals and events by my choice because I’m an old fashion gentleman and believe that if I’m asking a lady out I should pay.
Like all couples we hit rough spots, recently there was a miscommunication on both side that caused confusion.
A few days later I made reservation at a restaurant she selected and then the night before she decided she didn’t want to go there and instead wanted to go to a different one (much less expensive, and right around the corner from where she lives if it matters) and go Dutch. With the rough spot and some oddly mixed message I asked if everything was ok or if she was upset about something nd wanted to talk I got a brusque answer back that there was nothing wrong she just changed her mind and wanted to buy her own meals and she shut down the conversation. Note: she has never changed her mind about what we are doing previously
Given the past comments I could have seen a “I want to buy this time” (partnership) but suddenly wanting to go Dutch has me confused. Reading through the site there are all sorts of q&a about Dutch what am I missing and why would a woman suddenly want to go Dutch after 4 month ( other than to set up a break up)
