Why did I mess up my life so bad?

[Kileo123]

I am 30 and i live with a guy friend, i feel uncomfortable everyday, i dont have adrivers license i have a good job, but no house no car no man... I am 30

[normalice]

The common story for this sort of thing is that there were immediate pleasures and reliefs you chased instead of investing a little tedium into improving yourself in ways that would later pay off with greater pleasures and reliefs.

Of course, when told it's not too late to start those investments now, the idea of suffering the tedium of college (or whatever you may think you could have done 10 years ago that would have improved your life now) likely doesn't outweigh your regret for not doing so sooner. The key is to keep that regret at the front of your mind as you contemplate the tedium. Force one to erode the other until either one is gone. If only the regret survives then you can carry that off to start improving your life with long term goals. If only the tedium survives then at least you don't have to live with regret anymore.

[20yearsolder]

All of that can be changed, you have a good job. Go Get driving lessons, you're never too old. You have the ability to find a boyfriend. Get off your ass and make yourself accessible, go join a group, something you enjoy doing and there's a good possibility but there will be a guy in that group that enjoys the same things you do. If you have a good job then you should have the ability to purchase a car or make it down payment on a home it stop feeling sorry for yourself Get off your ass and go do something about it

[D-Pad_Chad]

So many non-answers in your responses it's pathetic.

You feel uncomfortable, why?
You have a good job, so save up Your money and buy a car/get a license.
You want a man, you're living with one, does he not meet your standards?
If a family comes up your 30 so this is going to be a very quickly shrinking window.
Also on the man front, how many men did you deny up to this point?
And would you be willing to get in/stay in shape for a man?

[slatyb]

The good news is that you are only 30. What do you want? A partner? A home of your own? A car? Start making a plan to get those things. A car is pretty easy if you have a good job. You can lease one for less than $200/month. Driving lessons aren't hard to find. What about a home? Do you just want a place of your own, or are you dreaming of a house? Are you saving money so you can get one? What are you doing to meet interesting men?

[exitseven]

Covid has messed up a lot of people. I feel like I have lost 3 years out of my life. I still feel a little lost. I sort of get what you are feeling.
You can try and get your drives license and get your life back on track. Yes, you are a little behind the curve but make a plan and stick to it.

[ohsheeT]

How did you mess up you didn't you can't have any of that until your ready for it

It's sound like it might be just about that time because your starting to think about it

[BJP21]

What you are listing in of itself has its own headaches to deal with. You are in a good position in my opinion. The less headaches of cost of living the better. Take it while you can.

As far as a man goes... PM me. :)

[FilmGuy93]

You probably just didn't ever live with any sense of purpose.

[Kileo123]

I did... I started out gooodd

[Anonymous]

The answer to many of your problems is gratitude.

[TroyDT]

Don't panic! You are still young. Also my grandmother never had a license in her life.

[James899]

Life won't be same. It will change. Work on it. Don't worry

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Your next course of action is now what matters. Blessi Cladi

[Anonymous]

The good news is, that story can change anytime you want it to.

[LazerBean]

No idea, that definitely sucks though.