Maybe you need to be more open?
I get the ' it just doesn't work out' a lot. Which is often code for a few things:
A) you're ugly
B) you aren't really flirting
In my case it's usually B. I don't like to flirt and be too sexual on a first date. I don't know you yet and im not interested in a hookup... and the last thing I want to do is to signal that I want a lay. Did that life a long time ago.
If I go that route then I won't attract the person I want... who like me is somewhat low key and reserved (but a spitfire in private ;) ).
Sounds like you don't really want more reserved people. Which means you're setting too high of an expectation for the first date if you want relationship material people... because guys looking for a LTR often don't want to f* on a first date.
My expectation for a good first date is we had good conversation, laughed at my jokes, and had a good time overall. That's it. I don't expect 'butterflies' or any crazy sexual chemistry because not enough time yet has been established for me to want that.
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Online dating is never easy but it can work. It's really not about the apps in my opinion but about how you make yourself look on them. If you want something serious, say so in your profile and before you set up a date, make sure they understand you want something serious.
Secondly take things slow, it's the Internet, authenticity isn't something that easy to come by. If you go on a date and you really click that's great! Just don't jump the gun and again be honest with them about it. Ask to take it slow and get to know them and you'll realise if they are genuinely into you, or were just saying whatever they thought you get them laid.
That's my view on it, but don't be shy to try to date irl either, it's usually a lot more fun in my opinion
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Real life is an application in my opinion. No sarcasm. It's a bigger smart phone with a much larger screen... I ask friends to go out and try to meet their friends I don't know and look for a human connection. The dating apps seem to be more hook up than dating based on everything I read and or hear from friends that use them.
When you turn 21 it will be easier when you can go out to more places. Have you thought of ditching the apps? I only ask because of how it's working currently for you?
If you are the type of person to do ONS, THAT is why things don't work out after trying all of those. A good person that wants a long term exclusive relationship is unlikely to accept a partner with that kind of past.
Hookup culture has taken over the internet. If you want to meet genuine people, you have to meet people genuinely. It’s too easy to hide too much online. Go out into the world.
Dating apps will never let you see a person for whst they really are, if you’re looking for a serious relationship i highly suggest trying to find them in person as you will be able to gauge their characteristics better.
NONE OF THEM!
But Hinge is the least awful, the last time I used it in 2019.
Avoid Tinder, Bumble, and Plenty of Fish (POF) like COVID!Real Life. Nothing is quite like seeing people in person, speaking in person, hanging out, getting to know someone's charming little quirks, etc.
None. They are over ridden with scammers and fake profiles.
eHarmony is "supposed" to be best for more serious long termers. That's all I know.
Jeez, you tried a lot of them. At that point maybe dating apps aren't for you
Most of them are losy with fake accounts. But of the people who I went on dates with. The most genuine people were from Facebook.
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