While I was studying I developed a good (work) relationship with a professor who was my mentor (for my bachelor's and my master's thesis and in between). When I was working on my thesis I didn't have any classes anymore and I also had a regular job (I don't work at the faculty). In the beginning, I always met with him at the faculty but since it was sometimes hard for us to meet there we also had a couple of calls. Once he suggested I come to his home instead and since I know him well enough I went and it was completely normal, we sat at his home office table and discussed what need be. He had also come to my home several times and it was always completely normal, pretty much the same as if we would meet in the office.
He is a very nice person, also to other people and other students and he never acted unprofessional around me. He is around 50 years old, has one grown-up kid, and is not married.
I really enjoyed working with him and to be honest, I always liked him. I never acted on it, since it would be extremely inappropriate. But no when that I finished my studies (I'm 28 years old) and I still have this desire for him, I wonder if I should try and take things further with him or not. I don't want a serious relationship, I am more after an interesting affair. Of course, the more "sane" answer is to not pursue him. But since he had no problem spending a lot of time with me, also visits at my home where sometimes his suggestion, and sometimes it was also later in the evening (because of our schedules), I think he might have been drawn to me a bit more. But of course, I am not sure about that. I once asked him, if he ever spent that much time helping any other student and he said that he wasn't going to student homes (which could also be because students usually are at faculty so there is no reason to go to their homes and/or nobody invited him).
What is your opinion? Thank you!
