He stopped replying after we dated, but now he wants to follow me on Instagram?

[Anonymous]

We had been colleagues in our previous job. This summer we met again, we dated for a few weeks, everything seemed wonderful, then suddenly he stopped replying to text messages, although he read them. I didn't insist or pressured, I understood I was ghosted. But a couple of weeks later he sent me a follow request on Instagram. What should I do?

[Guy13]

You probably were sending dissertation length texts messages. Often, we characterize this as Emotional Bombardment. Guys interpret differently than girls...

[Asker]

You assumed wrong. I only sent two very brief text messages, which both remained unanswered. One if he will join our postgrad dinner and the other one asking how did it go with his job promotion. Two lines each.

[Guy13]

Thank you for clarification. Then yes, I think he kicked you out of Interest, over the friend zone directly into Aggravated zone.