Girls, What makes you decide you don’t want second date with a guy?

[Anonymous]

[BlueScorpio]

If he asks me on date then takes me somewhere like McDonald's or an empty parking lot etc. I'm sorry but being that cheap is unflattering, I understand men these days afraid of being taking advantage but if your going to view every woman as possible goldigger then it's best to just not bother. Now we don't have to go to the most expensive place in town, I'm not asking you to take me to a trip to Paris and shower me in diamonds and gold, but at leat put some effort into the date.

when a guys does something like that it shows and makes a woman think/feel that he doesn't think she's worthy or valuable enough to court properly. When men really want something, they will put their best foot forward in order to achieve whatever goal their heart desires. To many guys these days want the easy way in without having to work for it, then when the woman is to easy they end up not respecting her or taking her seriously. It's the same way, a lot women will not take an extremely cheap/greedy man seriously.

[BlueScorpio]

And there or other things as well, like not being compatible, his attitude/personality, how he treats others, hygiene practices etc.

[Steamnir]

He lets me pay

he is sarcastic about my looks

he says stupid disrespectful jokes

his hygiene is bad

he has unacceptable style in clothes or hair

he can't make decisions or force his decisions on me

he speaks about getting physical affection from me on first date

he has no etiquette or general ethics on how to act in public/ private places

he doesn't take care of his teeth or nails cleanliness

he speaks too much about himself or ask too much about me rather than carrying a conversation "give and take".
He orders too much food

[BlueScorpio]

You lost me at ordering too much food. Lol like I don't understand that one especially if he can eat it all.. Men have big appetites. 😅

[Steamnir]

@BlueScorpio at first date, he should focus on talking and on me rather than enjoying a big feast

[BlueScorpio]

I see what you mean

[Midgetmcwidget]

This happened to me beforehand was 21 at the time, told me he has about children, divorced, started decided to start kissing me at the end of the date when I was trying to put my seatbelt on the the car, told that no second date would happen and continued to text me twice or more a week for 2 years turning up at my workplace with colleagues, moved jobs a lot to get away and still turned up.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Tbh I didn’t proof read and if you can understand what I wrote, you deserve a medal.

Have 3 children at the time, decided to grab my face and started kissing me.

[dustybiker]

Nobody can choose who they fall for. A person either feels it (enough for more dates) or they don’t. There has to be some beginnings of a passionate spark. Relationships are about sex, not just friendship. It’s chemical. Which is why we have no control over attraction.

[Ria_300]

Well if I'm on a date and we disagree we on everything we talk about that's a no no for me.
If he seems like a creep...
We have to have a good connection if not that wouldn't.
If he is too rude and gross that's also a no go.
And I don't know if he is too self centered asw like narcissist that's a no and kinda just things related like that yk what I mean

[grapefruit11]

If by the end of the first date, we still haven’t gotten past the awkwardness and nervousness, we haven’t connected on anything, and there wasn’t an obvious mutual attraction, I wouldn’t want to go on another awkward date.

[A_Bell]

If he doesn't engage with conversation or make eye contact. Has visible tattoos. Seems angry or neurotic. in any way. No sense of humor. Dumb as rocks.

[Monalisa77]

Eye contact can be difficult for some people

[A_Bell]

@Monalisa77 not for me and I date for me not them. They are free to find someone who matches them.

[Monalisa77]

Thats rather rude, if ur going to care for someone then u need to understand they will have their issues

[A_Bell]

@Monalisa77 that is ridiculous. It's a first date and a major compatibility issue.

What I think is happening is that you might be on the spectrum and are personalizing my prefetences and taking away my right to choose the type of people I am interested in becsuse you fear people may do it to you.

There is nothing wrong with being incompatible, but there is a lot wrong with taking away someone's choices.

[Monalisa77]

That again is rude and personal, you dont even know me😂😂you sound rather selfish. If you dont have compassion for someone on a first date then you won't in a relationship

[Monalisa77]

Im fine with eye contact actually, i ended up having a proper staring moment with my crush

[Sour-rose]

I already told the N*gga i'm asexual and he tries his hand anyways.

Like, n*gga... what did i just fu-

[lauraanne02]

If he doesn't pay for the meal, or if he has a small dick

[misfittoy]

someone who doesn't contribute to the conversation, someone who has his phone in his face the whole time and or rude to staff where we go

[Bethany22]

if his grammar is bad and if he didn't share much about himself or we had very superficial conversations

[WhitneySnow]

He does something that makes me uncomfortable (like tries to grab my boob on the first date or something)

[LaBokaChula]

Nothing in common, they're rude, or they're obnoxious.. OR they display predatory behaviors. -__-

[LazerBean]

Not compatible, bad personality, we don't click, he has bad hygiene, bad manners.

[AddylynnNightingale]

If I don't think we are going anywhere, a first date is enough.

[Darine123]

Not pay for the date, try to touch your hand or body

[A_Bell]

So are you a modern feminist or old fashion girl? Sounds like you want it both ways.

[Anonymous]

The guy is disrespectful, in a hurry to get into your pants, talks shit about everyone, boasting about themselves, stinky or unhygienic, catfished

[Anonymous]

When I feel I don't know what else to say and it starts to feel forced as I realise we have nothing in common

[sheenagwapa]

if he has bad personality

[Blackcupcake]

there’s no attraction, no chemistry

[AsaKyo]

If he tries to force himself on you

[TacosRAwesome]

Not enough in common.

[Anonymous]

He has too many bad habits.