Everyone says my girlfriend is hot. How do I deal with it?

[Anonymous]

Alright this seems like a brag, but. I'm a 7 out of 10. My new girlfriend is easily a 9 to most people. So it's fair to say I'm punching and got lucky.

When we go out together, people stare at her, and other guys try to flirt with her in front of me. Some of them better looking than me and very obvious about their flirting. It was flattering at first as I'm the one who gets to take her home, but after a while it started getting old. We were out at the bar the other night and a guy stepped in front of me to talk to my girlfriend. She told him she's with me but he ignored the fact and continued to come onto her. All my friends say she's hot and some of them have tried flirting with her as well, and even other girls stop us to compliment my girlfriend.

How do I avoid getting possessive or jealous? I don't want to come off as some controlling guy, as I know jealousy is a turn-off. She never flirts back with them, but I don't know how to act in those situations where other guys are blatantly coming onto her.

[TheorionMage]

BE SURE... that you demonstrate to her that you KNOW her 'worth' both as a woman and as a person. She either does not intrinsically believe... or refuses to value her 'companionship' as her environs values her.
CHERISH her fidelity! BE... consistently her highest Bidder, for her attentions! THEN, you WILL have done ALL within YOUR power BUT... some naive young women witness the 'soap opera' drama ongoing among their acquaintances and misread it as 'passion' and believe themselves to be 'missing out'. This is the Latin telenovela mentality and nothing but life experience will teach her the TRUE value of what you two have and what is risked to be ';ost'.

Gratuitous turbulent 'passion' is but 'fool's gold'.

[Avicenna]

Only do something when guys flirt with her. That is total disrespect to you.

That other guys gawk at her is part of having a hot girlfriend. But you need to draw a red line when it comes to flirting.

[Avicenna]

Thanks for the MHO

[Biancam13]

That's just what happens when you date someone attractive, unfortunately. You need to trust her, because she's probs been getting this kinda attention all her life (or for as long as she's been attractive) so she doesn't really care about it anymore. It gets old very quickly also for her. So I know it's hard but just trust her, she's with you because she wants to be. Not anyone else.

[mandyfire98]

You have to trust her. You also have to not be insecure about this. Be confident. Don't let it bother you. If a guy is hitting on her then confront him and tell him to stop. If you start being insecure and that comes to the front then she'll probably end up being turned off by that.

[WildCard42]

I was married to a woman like that and we couldn't even walk down the street at times without guys rolling down their window and trying to steal her basically. Yes, there were guys at bars and I would just go put my arm around her and look at him like he better be ready to die for her because I am.

How did i deal with it?

I loved her and fucked her so much that she was too sore to walk sometimes let alone cheat on me. That only lasts for so long so it's just basically an uphill battle to keep a woman like that forever.

Enjoy it while it lasts.

[MCheetah]

Rub her face in bacon grease, or find someone newer and uglier to date. If you trust her, then you know they aren't going to get her, especially if she doesn't flirt back with them. Insecurity and trying to get tough with guys will only drive her away.

Also I'd bet every dollar I have right now you're not "a 7 or higher." If a guy says that, he's probably 2 points lower and short on top of it (below six feet). The ugliest dudes I've ever seen call themselves 6s and 7s. (At least I know I'm ugly!)

[Grond21]

Talk to her about it. Share your feelings, in a way that shows you want to connect with her and you want to be the best man you can be for her. That you want to help her in those situations however she needs. That will help her trust you more, and you can work out a good system to deal with it. And ask her how she feels when that happens

[Fireguy17]

are you worried that she is hotter than you or are you bragging or complaining?
Remember one person's hot is another person's ehh.
looks fade over time then all she is left with is a balding guy with a beer gut and all you have is a former beauty that gained 70 lbs.

[Anonymous]

Well if she's hot she probably isn't loyal as well so you should worry. But don't deal with ANY of this nonsense man. I don't care how attractive she is. You have as much value as her. Treat her right, treat her with the utmost respect, DEMAND the same from her. And if she doesn't kick her ass to the curb.

[Wubs3000]

I have the same issue. I guess you just gotta tough it out. Its probably equally a turn off to try to fight someone.

[misogynistic_pig]

It depends on how she dresses, if she dresses like a bitch it's normal for men to harass her.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a stunner 😭

Describe her to us

[dragoblack]

Take the compliment, and continue in stride, unless/until any of them tries anything.

[AddylynnNightingale]

I just go "I know."

[Guardian45]

Say "Thank you. I have GREAT taste!"

[Nominal]

Get rid of your friends.