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so here's the context ! it's kinda long and i will try to summarise the whole story ðŸ˜
we had a meet up on this Tuesday and we were talking about what had happened on last week. he mentioned to me that he was using other girls that he met to have drinks tgt as rebound and that's when he realised he should have a break with me. i then accept the break and we we were basically talking about our feelings.
he said that he want me because i'm really understanding about his situation unlike his exes and he dont wish to hurt my feelings if he wanted to use me as a rebound ( which he didn't want that so he asked for a break ).
however, i felt so weird because i don't mind being friends with him at the moment just so he could heal from his past relationship yet i want him to be my boyfriend too.
we had a meet up on this Tuesday and we were talking about what had happened on last week. he mentioned to me that he was using other girls that he met to have drinks tgt as rebound and that's when he realised he should have a break with me. i then accept the break and we we were basically talking about our feelings.
he said that he want me because i'm really understanding about his situation unlike his exes and he dont wish to hurt my feelings if he wanted to use me as a rebound ( which he didn't want that so he asked for a break ).
however, i felt so weird because i don't mind being friends with him at the moment just so he could heal from his past relationship yet i want him to be my boyfriend too.
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From the information you have provided, it sounds like this guy is self aware that he is going through some emotional/mental turmoil but doesn't know how to manage/process it in a healthy way. He sounds like he just wants to have fun and not get too attached to people right now. He acknowledges that you are a kind and (assuming sensitive) girl and since he is not ready for the relationship you desire with him, he is afraid he will hurt you.
It totally sucks, I get it. We cannot rush others through their own healing process though. I'd say that if you were serious about him, it will take lots of patience... but don't let him take advantage of you. Set yourself some boundaries.
i'm srs about him.. but then I don't know why i was fine with being friends to just him when i just dont do that to other guys
You mentioned how you both were "talking about our feelings." You must have felt like there was some type of emotional connection... or you have empathy for this guy because he is going through something right now. I would listen to him and try not to force something that he doesn't want right now because the only person who will get hurt will be you. Don't do that to yourself.
Not interested