How much do you pursue a potential SO in the beginning?

[blissinanarchy1]

Here’s a place I’m stuck at. I got no problem introducing myself to a girl and getting her number.

But once we’re in this stage of getting to know each other a bit through text, I drop the ball. I try to ask her a bit about herself, to try to get to know her and show that I have an interest in more than just sex. It seems like I get ghosted right at this point, a lot. Keeping a girl’s interest in person is easy as hell, but once I get her number it’s impossible. Once I get left on open I typically just leave her tf alone. But it happens so much I’m trying to figure out how to make ghosting stop?

[Agirlinneedhelp]

I think the best place to chat with someone is Instagram. You get plenty of information about their interests and activities and they do too. You can always start a conversation with the story they've posted or something. Texting on other applications isn't really leading anywhere to most of us. Maybe get their Instagram or Twitter instead of number?

Also, I think if you're dating someone over 23, chances are work is leaving them drained and they don't text that much. I'd say try meeting up with them more than just have conversations through text.

[blissinanarchy1]

See I try to meet a girl in person, but if they’re too busy, it’s a problem. The girl in mind I have is a waitress. I met, and told my friend I thought she was cute. I didn’t say something directly to her because I’m sure as a waitress, guys harass her all the time. My friend told her that I thought she was cute, to which she said the same about me. I wanted to ask her number, but I didn’t see her again. I gave another waitress my number to give to her…. and to my surprise the waitress texted me. We talked for a day, then afterwards I can’t get a hold of her. I texted a few more times, and I even called once to see if I was blocked. I’m not, just on delivered. So I’m like… what gives? I don’t want go stop by her job if she’s intentionally ignoring me.

[Agirlinneedhelp]

I see. Her texting you in the first place means she did find you attractive. But her not texting you again probably means she's either met someone or she's just too busy.

I'd say give it some time maybe she'd text you again. I have definitely ignored a couple of texts from guys I found attractive because I was way too busy with work and it left me burned out and not really want to talk to people.
And it's a good idea that you don't stop by her job, unless you were a usual there.

[Anonymous]

I'm real casual at first, because I don't want to make myself look desperate.