Girls, How do I become attractive?

[Guccixlouis]

I'm a 29 year old guy. I've only had 2 relationships in my whole life (1 friends with benefits at 18 and 1 girlfriend at 24). This seriously bothers me constantly all day every day and gives me massive anxiety knowing that I can't get with girls. I'm not good at talking with them but I know my problem is more fundamental than that. I am unattractive plain and simple. If i was attractive I would obviously have girls in my life whereas right now and for most of my life I have none. Can someone please tell me how to be attractive. I dress really good (like REALLY good so this isn't the issue), I take care of my teeth and have a white smile, I dont have a six pack but I'm in athletic shape, so these areas I'm set. But what else can I do to become attractive?

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by the way I posted a crappy pic of me as my avatar, feedback please

[SueShe]

Just ask yourself why you want to become more attractive?

One does not just become attractive to others and there is more to attractiveness than the looks. Part of being attractive to others reside on the inside and that is much more difficult to change than to go to the plastic surgeon and pay $$$ for a new look.

What is much more important than the shell are your character, personality and intellect. Those cannot be changed at your age. You may change the basics but the core of your personality and character are part of your DNA and one does not change that so easily.

If your aim to become more attractive is to get girls, then you are wasting your time. The right one will come sometime, regardless of your looks and she will love you for whom you are without you having to change anything...

That is called true love.

[Guccixlouis]

How do I change whats "on the inside" then?

[SueShe]

For example, being kind or honest are things that you grow up with. If you don't have them already, then becoming kind and honest is very difficult because that is not part of your character. When you don't constantly pay attention it is almost not achievable.

Just think of new year's resolutions. Very few people are able to hold onto those resolutions a lifelong.

[Guccixlouis]

Do girls really care about kind and honest? I see guys that aren't either, getting girls all the time

[dustybiker]

Find a hobby that makes you happy and master it. People with skills are more attractive

[Guccixlouis]

Im pretty good at making music but girls don't seem to care about that

[dustybiker]

What instruments do you play?

[Guccixlouis]

Rap music. I don't play instruments, I compose, record, and rap

[dustybiker]

Is there anything you’ve wanted to try and haven’t yet? Something new?

[Illaskalotof]

Its the looks but personality too. Try to be more mysterious and focused on your work and life.. if a girl comes across dont flirt with her imidiatly it makes u look desparate. So as i said stop thinking about this and focus on ur life

[Guccixlouis]

Got you. Any advice on how to better my looks though?

[Illaskalotof]

Skin care , dress better like stylish go to the gym you know what i mean, get a new haircut

[Guccixlouis]

Any brands you suggest for skin care? My face is a bit bumpy and I'd love to have it smooth

[sheenagwapa]

but you don't look ugly at all... so maybe you don't hang out with womem that much

[Guccixlouis]

I dont hang out with them at all. Thats what I'd like to change, but I can't even get them interested to be my friends

[Anonymous]

Take your best friend who's a girl and ask her this question and do everything she says. It's the do everything she says part guys don't do.

[Guccixlouis]

Im so bad with girls I don't even have any that are friends

[Anonymous]

Your biggest mistake is focusing on looks. If your personality is a dud, you won't go anywhere in relationships.

[Guccixlouis]

It most certainly is a dud, admittedly lol. I definitely need confidence and get rid of my fear of women. But I do feel I could look attractive so I could at least get the time of day from them to at least show them my personality.

[Guccixlouis]

I dont want relationships rn, I want to be attractive so I can make female friends that would love to have sex with me

[SeriouslyFunny00]

What's your personality?

[Guccixlouis]

Im generally an introvert, and I have bipolar with tendencies to major depression. I'm not confident at all and am neurotic and almost everything scares me, a nervous wreck