What would you think if the girl was interested in you at first, ghosted you?

[Anonymous]

What if a girl was interested in you at first, she pursued you then

(Early stage of dating) After a night she left your apartment she ghosted you and never called you again.

What would guys feel and think?

[BCA6010]

Ghosting is what it is regardless of other details (an extremely selfish act of disrespect). It's offensive, deserves to be blocked and never messed with again, and much easier to move on from than a breakup since there's no doubt that nothing of value is lost.

[Asker]

During the date he said: "I have married friends, they do other things too. You cannot love on person in life. biologically impossible" I GHOSTED HIM 😂 He's a piece of shit

[boggboss]

That she lost imtrest and was a shitty person not capable of explaining that

[Asker]

Why shitty person? She pursued him a lot. Maybe she was just done with him?

[Asker]

Because she had enough?

[boggboss]

Enough of what anyone that ghosts is pretty shit unless there was no other option if more happened type it but within the context u provided she would be shitty

[Asker]

Lol I wanted to date him pursued him in the beginning. He rejected me. Then I moved on. After he started to chase me, then he played with me again bu saying "i don't deserve you, i can only hang out" I got shocked because he played with me. Eventually he said "you cannot love one person it's biologically impossible" after I heard that, I left him and never talked to him again. Because I had enough

[boggboss]

OK so u did the right thing but that not the same as the small info provided in the question

[Asker]

Yeah could you answer now? What do you think he would feel / think? (in your opinion)

[Asker]

I simply left he texted me after I'm gone "where did you go" I didn't answer. I never talked to him again

[boggboss]

That's did the right thing clearly he was not intrested

[boggboss]

Ghosting is always shitty but you 2 are both fools in that situation leaving was clearly meeded

[Asker]

Yes he wasn't but I'm asking what he would think after I'm gone?

[boggboss]

From what he has been described probably annoyed that u didn't stay around as a option

[Asker]

It was fair to him since he played with my feelings. Not everyone deserves a goodbye.

[Asker]

Am I the upper hand since eventually I left him?

[boggboss]

Meh it dont really matter how u excuse it ghosting is always shitty unless there is no other choice

[boggboss]

What upper hand lol stop playing games nobody here has the upper hand simply both of u wasted time thats all

[Asker]

I wanted him feel bad because I did

[boggboss]

Why wpuld he feel bad he clearly sidnt care wnough u can't hurt a person that playes with u like that because it requires them to care the same way u did for him

[Asker]

He didn't think PUSSY WILL BE CLOSED 😂

[boggboss]

Which makes him a fool but if he was so easly able to play u sounds like u was not the only girl in the picture

[Asker]

I tried everything to make it work. I hope he felt bad because things needed to end this away.

[boggboss]

1 person can't make things work requires both parties again he probobly didn't feel anything past annoyed

[Asker]

Probably I wasn't. I hurt a lot. I'd never do this again (chasing a guy) I learned my lesson. I've been trying to recover for a year

[boggboss]

Has nothing to do with u chasing a guy u chased a player

[Asker]

Should've texted him "Leave me alone, never texted me again" or something? Which one would be more hurtful?

[Asker]

Been a year. We never blocked each other, we never reached out each other again either. This is the most terrible "breakup/finish" I've ever had.

Normally after all hang outs, fucks... One of side would reach out. We never did. Very terrible.

[boggboss]

I dont think u understand you won't be able to hurt him like that because it requires him to care

[Asker]

Every guy come back at someone point. He's the only who never came back&check me out I feel really sad to be honest after everything done for him

[boggboss]

Why did u expect him to do u honestly think he till thinks about this like how u do

[Asker]

Personally, (even I wasn't interested in a guy,) I'd feel bad & I'd still remember him. Because I played someone cared about me, someone who wanted to be with me. And they had enough and left without even explanation, there is no even respect left.

I'd feel bad because things didn't end respectfully

[boggboss]

Thats fair enough but thats because u are not a player things like that wouldn't bother them because its thr type of stuff they do constantly

[Asker]

Do you think what'd be the best explanation/ending? What should've done?

[boggboss]

Telling him u are fed up with being treated like a option and u 2 clearly ain't looking for the same thing so u are moving on

[boggboss]

But u can't do that now

[Asker]

I actually DID 🤦🏻‍♀️ When he rejected me at first I moved on. He texted me "I miss you" "Guess you're mad at me" I said "We don't have the same intentions" he said "Dating? yes we do" He convinced me.

Then we hang out again and that night happened. And I left in the morning for ever.

[boggboss]

Yet u went back so it didn't really matter

[Asker]

Then I left forever because I had enough

[boggboss]

Yeah

[Still-alive]

we will see if you actually leave forever... its clear you're still obsessing over him regardless otherwise you wouldn't have given a shit what he thinks after you left. @asker :)

[Asker]

@Still-alive I'm hurt by him doesn't mean I want to back to him

[Still-alive]

We'll see. you are clearly thinking of him a lot. you really oughtta just move on instead of worrying about what he's thinking when you ghosted him.

which by the way if he was abusive or a cheater you are right to ghost him. otherwise there's no excuse for that immature behavior. just a heads up for the next guy you're into.

[Asker]

@still-alive There were no official relationship. But my feelings got hurt. Read the comments above about him

[Still-alive]

still doesn't justify ghosting. you aren't interested, tell him and then leave. its that simple.

[Asker]

@Still-alive I was very interested. But I had enough

[Still-alive]

ok so you tell him that. don't ghost. IF he doesn't respect that then thats when you leave.

[Asker]

@Still-alive He KNEW I was interested. He played with me then I left

[Still-alive]

did you tell him straight up that you were no longer interested in him before you left?

[Asker]

@still-alive He was smart enough to understand finally I was done with with after he literally said "you cannot love one person impossible" Like there were another woman in his life.

He asked "are you upset" He understood I got upset/ my face was telling all. Then I left. No time for his bullshit.

[Still-alive]

not the same as just telling him you aren't interested sorry. Ghosting is always wrong unless you think he's abusive or is a cheater.

tell him verbatum you are not interested then leave. if he keeps coming after you then you ghost him.

[Asker]

I got really disappointed that doesn't mean I want him. Walking away and silence is the best answer

[Still-alive]

only after you clearly told him no first. do you not get that? lol its like you keep trying to justify ghosting. its a shitty cowardly thing to do to people. you only do it after you say you aren't interested and they keep chasing. thats it.

[Asker]

@still-alive He wasn't abusive but he was narcissistic. He played with me and I simply left then I had enough. Also I hope he felt bad.

[Still-alive]

he probably didn't feel anything. nice try though.

Ghosting is wrong period with the only two exceptions i listed earlier.

but hey you do you i guess.

[Asker]

@Still-alive I didn't try anything. Why defending him? He wronged me for whole time and I left. People are online crazy really.

[Asker]

If he didn't feel anything or care there is nothing wrong about me ghosting him then :)

[Still-alive]

im not defending him. he sounds like an asshole. but that doesn't justify ghosting. and deep down you likely know it doesn't.

[Still-alive]

lol ok you tell yourself that.

Ghosting IS wrong. and should just about never be tolerated.

[Asker]

@Still-alive If you try to be empathetic, A girl wants to be with you, you play with her and eventually she leaves you without saying anything. For me that's not even really ghosting though. It's like walking away&moving on with a clear sign.

[Still-alive]

after he plays you, you tell him its over. then you leave. thats my point here and im sticking to it.

continue to ghost people though. im sure that will keep working out for you.

[Still-alive]

and its probably not at all clear to him at all so. congrats the intended effect likely didn't even happen like you hoped it does.

[Asker]

@Still-alive In the beginning I was almost begging him to text me.

I left in the morning. I didn't reply his text. It has been a year I never texted him since then. I think he get that.

[Asker]

@Still-alive so in conclusion, what would he think about me? About what happened?

[laraWM]

I think he'll lose interest in her pretty quick. That's not really fair

[Asker]

But she pursued him for relationship a lot. And he was not willing to

[laraWM]

I mean you don't leave someone without at least telling him it's over

[Asker]

How?

[laraWM]

I mean tell him she's not interested anymore

[Anonymous]

that she used me and i will never give her the time of day again if she tries reaching out again.

i now have a zero tolerance with ghosting now. you ghost me. im gone forever

[Anonymous]

Id lose interest real fast.

[Asker]

Ok but what would you think about her?

[Opinion Owner]

She's immature and likes to play games.

[Asker]

She's completely gone. How that can be "playing games" She's not back.

[Still-alive]

it's playing games. you know it is. c'mon