Ladies would you date a man who’s 5’7-5’8. Im 19 and I’ve been really insecure of my height lately, and it’s really starting to bother me. Am I short?

[Asim04]

[PrettyPriya]

Yep, I absolutely would. I am just over 5' tall so even the height you describe would be tall to me. My husband is 6' tall (nearly) and that is like a giant to me. I wish either I was taller or he was shorter just to close the gap even a little bit.

Your height, although still quite a bit taller than me, would be more ideal than what my husband's height is. Oh well though. We get what we get. I love him not for his height but for who he is as a person. His personality and character are what I fell in love with.

Height, along with other physical attributes that are asked about on GaG are not the important thing. It is far more important the intangible qualities that make up a person rather than the physical ones.

You could be the perfect height for most girls (whatever that might be) and have a rubbish personality (not saying you do). I am not going to date that person just because he is tall but a complete jerk.

[insteadfew]

Knowingly or unknowingly you fell for a 6ft tall man despite being short for a girl... that's the thing... why shorter men are insecure about being short.
Because short girls who would be generally be an ideal for them don't really want/like them... consciously or unconsciously... and taller women obviously can't/won't opt a man that's just her height or even shorter than her.
Therefore short-ish men always feel insecure, rejected and unwanted.
Also it's biological for a man to feel insecure, inferior if he's generally shorter or just the same height as a female.

[PrettyPriya]

@insteadfew You clearly did not read a word that I wrote other than my spouse is 6' tall.

-and that is like a giant to me (negative)

-I wish either I was taller or he was shorter just to close the gap even a little bit (negative)

-would be more ideal than what my husband's height

-Oh well though. We get what we get

-I love him not for his height but for who he is as a person

-It is far more important the intangible qualities that make up a person rather than the physical ones

There is the paraphrased version of my opinion should that be easier to understand for you. Do not suggest for a second that you know why I chose to date and marry him. That is presumptuous and rude.

[insteadfew]

No i didn't mean to be rude to you in anyway.
It is what it is. Being a short man i know what we short men already feel... emotionally and psychologically... ALWAYS.. we can accept it as we age but never get over our lack of height... i guess this " suffering" is with us till our last breath.

[ShellyB]

I try to be v. honest here, I feel that is the point of this site, to honestly answer your question, you are a little short but not that short, and going by height alone I would prefer to date someone taller although it is possible I would date someone your height if everything else was good. I am 5-6.

Having said that, you should not worry about anybody who is not interested in dating you, you do not need every girl to want to date you, you just need the right girl to want to date you. My advice would be to not worry about it since you can't do anything about it anyway and just ask out girls you like. One of the biggest ladies men I know is 5-8.

JMO good luck!

[OfMiceandMen]

I think if you have all the qualities a woman wants your just as demanding as the taller guys.

I guarantee, if you are a genuine person, treat women with respect and can make them smile, your height difference won't be such an issue.

The other way you can tip the scales is stay in shape. Women are somewhat like men in the whole initial attraction stage, and they like someone who takes care of themself.

Tall, dark and handsome, falls short of the mark, if they have a lot of less redeeming qualities.

So focus on the three qualities above, stay in shape, and I am sure your won't have an issue.

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks man, cheers.🙌

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

This thing of the height is a weird hang up many guys have. Women aren't that obsessed with it, if you like you, they like you.

I am quite short - 162cm - and I managed to find love and marry an amazing woman. If I managed with such shortness, you are fine.

[PrettyPriya]

Apparently someone knows me better than I know myself. Sigh...

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

@PrettyPriya I've seen. Don't bother arguing with those people, everything you say will be twisted to suit their view.

[Shamalien]

Do you live in Japan?

[Guy13]

If you act short they will treat you shortly. Date 4’11-5’3 girls

[TommyWiseau69]

Girl as that range are probably the most pickiest. They also want much taller guys

[Guy13]

@TommyWiseau69 Not my friends. 5'1 and she is 4'11 married 48 years. know lots of 5'10 and 5'3

[TommyWiseau69]

Height doesn't matter for women. It's obvious that shorter women want much taller guys and this has always been the case.

[Guy13]

@TommyWiseau69 alright.

[Aerissa_Jade]

That is the least of my concerns, if everything else is good, I'd go for it.

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry about things you can’t change also don’t fall a victim or men made rules. That’s the point of bullying and putting you down to question your existence. Why let them win ! What is wrong with your height? 5’7 or 5’8 even 5’5 so what That’s good always be proud of how you look.
Just stay healthy don’t get sick or die early
Like people at your age have leukemia and 6 months to live so why worry about things that don’t matter to universe like your… height..
be grateful you are healthy that’s all it matters. And find girls who are your height million of girls out there that are 5’0

[LazerBean]

As long as you have a good personality and are mentally stable, you will be fine. 5'8 is taller taller than your average woman, and only slightly shorter than the average man. The majority of my male friends that are married are between 5'4 and 5'8. I had a good friend that was 5'8 and carried himself really well, and he was never in any shortage of female admirers.

[UniquelyBasic]

If a guy is over 5'7 and is average in looks then not getting a date isn't because of your height most of the time. Its because of something else. I think the people who have a really tough time with their height are people who are like 5'5. Its so cringe seeing all these guys complain about not getting women because they are only 5'9 or especially guys who are 5'10 😆. Your height is fine.

[midnightmoon05]

I’m married to one.
at 19, work on your self esteem. Height is not a top list for most women when they pick out a mate. If they do, you are better off with out them.
1. yiur ambition, confidence, goals, kindness to her, how you treat your family and others, how you manage finances…

[Random_g]

I don't know how much is 5'7 exactly but I don't really think that height matters when choosing a partner, however we can have a preference of an ideal type (that doesn't mean we will end up with our ideal type tho 😅)

For me, i'm short myself (156 cm) and my ideal type is my height or slightly taller (maybe up to 170 cm ) .. but it really doesn't matter.

[saturnnn]

there is most definitely someone out there for you who will love you for you and not give a rats ass about how tall you are. don’t focus on the uncontrollable, work on you, nurture your emotional intelligence and your ability to express and show love to women and sure as hell you will find someone! there’s tons of women out there who would date you i’m sure you just have to be willing to put yourself out there man and not have such a scarce mindset about if women will date you. You just have to be you and be willing to show interest and chase a girl you find worthy, it’s so easy from there.

[hIopinionated_]

I’m 5’1 and a half, trust me when I say you are tall. Also, dude, you’re 19. You are still growing. Sadly, I will be 5’1 and a half forever. Sucks but good thing you’re still growing (since you’re obviously bothered by your height). I truly wish I was 5’7 or 5’8

[Truthatanycost]

I'm the same height and love it. That's my mindset and I don't care if any woman has an issue with it. I've been approached enough times, and had plenty of interest (although I prefer to be single). But ask yourself this. Do you think I would have had the same level of interest from women and been approached, if I had a negative mindset about my height?

[Berethor]

You below average height for man, and yea women are fairly obsessed about tall men. :)

https://www.worlddata.info/average-bodyheight.php

[4ngelic]

i could but prefer someone taller cause i'm also 5'8. most girls would give you a chance though since most are shorter than you and like you're average height not a midget or even properly short so no need to be insecure <3

[tina_695]

Why do guys think being tall is equivalent to being attractive as long as you have attractive facial features and good body think of 6 feet clumsy guy if you get insecure of your height then balance it by working on other parts of yourself

[Anonymous]

Nah. You’re just young and growing and learning still lots. It’s okay it bothers you but it will pass. Lots of women don’t have a heigh preference expect for the princess women that bark about how tall she’ll be with her heels on. But truly, find a way to love yourself as you are and know it gets better

[Kori1236]

Yeah. Height really isn’t as important as guys think. Yes there are some girls that want to have a taller dude and won’t settle for less than 6’. I personally think 6’ and taller is too tall.

[EbeneezerGoode]

If you're 5'7" you're the same height as Steve Buscemi though, which is a really cool person to be same height as (That's how I remember my height - Steve Buscemi height).

[oseveno]

Yes, I don’t care too much about height. It’s the personality that matters most to me. You’re fine, don’t worry too much about it.

[KittyKat90210]

I'd definitely date him if he's a nice person. And I don't think 5'7 or 5'8 is that short in my opinion.

[itsalyssaagain]

I have considered it in the past but the only reason I wouldn’t do it now is because im a tall girl myself. If I was shorter I don’t see an issue with it

[whorable]

everyone has a preference.. you’re “short” for a guy for some but for a 5’1 gal like myself you’re a giant