He left right after having sex, should I confront him about it?

[Anonymous]

I’ve gone on two dates with this guy and they were super sweet and he would always ask me right after to go on another date. I asked him to come to my place for the third date cause we wanted to play games. we had a really good time and eventually had sex. Right after he got up and said he was leaving cause he has work in the morning, which I understand. But the more I sit around and think about it the worse I feel, I feel used. The sex was okay, he did talk about a next time and texted me right when he left my place.

im just confused cause leaving right after sex is not a great feeling, even if he stayed for 20 mins I would’ve been happy but he left within 3 minutes. I’m just wondering if I should confront him about it.

[SnowedIn]

"Confront" sounds like way too strong a word. This sounds exactly like two people who haven't yet shared expectations.

You should not confront him, you should communicate. Let him know that staying for some amount of time after sex is important to you. Watch his eyes go wide -- he probably had no idea.

[Asker]

Yeah confront was a bad word. I’m just unsure if it’s too soon to have that conversation because he did seem a little embarassed when he was leaving so maybe he just wanted to quickly leave. He is still talking to me constantly

[SnowedIn]

Talk to him the next time. He can't fix it if he doesn't know it's important to you.

[lightbulb27]

yes otherwise you are denying your needs. That's oxytocin that is being thrown in the trash can.

You can ask him how he felt leaving early. He may have felt better leaving. Whatever. But you can better position for what you expect. If he can't give that, there is no point.

Or maybe you can get a ring before doing anything else... my recommendation.

[xCherryKizz]

Do you feel like he likes you?
Or does he feel like he is just doing it for fun?

Sorry if being harsh but i hate to see another woman being taken advantage of. I suggest you ask him about it and move on from there

[Asker]

I mean yes? He remembers really small details I don’t even remember telling him and he made me a paper ring on our first date. I don’t know he also kisses my forehead a lot Lmao I feel stupid I’m not sure if he does

[xCherryKizz]

He sounds fine i guess. Maybe just tell him how you feel about leaving after sex, and see what he says

[Anonymous]

You gave it up too soon. I’ve done that before. Just end things with this one, chalk it up to trial and error and wait 3 months next time before sex.

[Guy13]

I would let him know how you feel. he's expecting something to be honest...

[Guy13]

I hope you do engage him as he is expecting a reaction. If you have none then he will come to disrespect you and eventually take advantage as nothing seems to matter to you. Good luck with him but pleas get borders, expectations, and guidelines

[In_Trance]

I don't understand why you haven't already

[Asker]

I feel like it might be too soon, we’ve only gone on three dates and I haven’t even known him for a month

[In_Trance]

I would say if that's truly how you're feeling then this is probably not the relationship for you

[Anonymous]

He just wanna sex no more