Dating for food and entertainment?

[Candykanelove]

I'm thinking about going out on a date with this guy. But only for the food and entertainment. He has been asking me a lot of questions. He's asked me how I feel about sex, what is my love language and he told me his is physical touch. He told me he's been on date with women who wanted to have sex with him on the first date. He asked me if I have any physical boundaries. Basically, it seems like he just trying to see how far he can go on the first date. So, I am just going to go on the date for the food. I am not interested in being in a relationship with him. He's in a wheelchair so I'm not afraid of him trying to harm me physically.

[Guy13]

Too expensive to go out with you.

[WaterIsland]

I mean. You can get food outside of a date, right? If you’re assuming he’ll buy you food, and it’s a free meal that you want, then you should be honest with him and set that expectation before the date. Otherwise it can quickly turn into a situation where you’re leading him on. Which is completely unfair of you to do to him.


If he has the expectation of being in a relationship or having sex, and you don’t. And you don’t make your intentions and expectations crystal clear, that is you leading him on and taking advantage of him.


Now if he’s ok with buying you a meal, and not having sex or going further, then by all means, go for it. But make sure you communicate on your end beforehand too.

[Candykanelove]

And him trying to be sneaky and getting sex out of me is called what? You're only talking about me yet you are saying anything about what he's trying to do.

[Candykanelove]

Just because a man buys a woman a meal doesn't mean she's obligated to have sex with him.

[WaterIsland]

Oh I 100% agree with you. It’s messed up if that’s what he’s after. I personally don’t believe in sex on a first date. Some people might. I don’t. What he’s doing seems like an absolute jerk move.

Which is why I wouldn’t waste my time with him. I’d cut my losses now. What exactly would you be gaining from it if you know it’s wrong? A free meal? That isn’t worth it in my opinion.

Things come back around. And even if he’s being a jerk. Taking advantage of a situation to get a free meal, feels wrong to me. Be the better person here. Because he clearly won’t be.

And finally, you are 100% right. A free meal doesn’t entitle anyone to sex. But it can’t hurt to make that perfectly clear that you aren’t gonna have sex with him.

All I’m suggesting is make your intentions and boundaries clear.