Is that sign I should lose weight?

[millyneenee]

I have noticed every time my boyfriend gets upset with me. He goes on other women’s pictures and call them beautiful and ask to take them on dates. And it’s always skinner women. I’m a bit thick and with a stomach but before me that’s how all is women were is skinny.

[dynamicyandere]

That sounds like he’s threatening to cheat on you when you upset him.


That’s messed up.


If you want to lose weight and work on your fitness goals, you can do that for yourself, if YOU genuinely want to.


But, with your boyfriend pressuring you in such a messed up way… I definitely think if you decided to do it, it should NOT be for him.


You and him may need to talk about that (if you want to work things out) because that’s pretty red flag behavior in my book. Not okay.


If he’s upset with you, he needs to find a healthier way of communicating with you and not resort to methods that could damage your sense of self-worth like that.


What’s he’s doing is pretty harmful behavior and will lead to a dysfunctional relationship if it doesn’t stop.

[millyneenee]

Yeah I found myself crying because now I feel not good enough I feel ugly. I feel like if I lose weight maybe he won’t do that anymore

[dynamicyandere]

He should love you at any size.

He should be supportive of you and help you on your journey—it should feel like a team effort.

Attacking your insecurities and purposefully trying to make you feel insecure is a really horrible way of going about it.

Nobody deserves to be treated like that.

[Anonymous]

It is a definite sign. He is doing it in a very mean way tho. My boyfriend told me that if I gained weight he would tell me to lose it and give me some time to do it, its still a mean thing to say but in a nicer way i guess than to gastlight you into figuring it out wathing him asking other women out. I understand that it would make him unattracted to me but we agreed that if I am not allowed to gain weight he isn't either.

Men are very visual creatures and there is nothing you can do about it. You can either dump him or lose some weight. Being fit would be good for you as you will feel more confident and healthy. But about being with him think it through because he is looking at other girls while being with you, thats a red flag that he is maybe over you even if you lose weight It looks like he lost interest in you.

[midnightcavern01]

If you feel insecure, ask him outright and of your fears r confirmed. Eat what you love and walk away. Don't let a guy manipulate what you look like because of his preference

[MrWolf]

The way he does it ain't right. Not nice. But you not taking care of your health and being responsible ain't right also. I guess take care of yourself more and tell that guy that he is hurting you by doing this.

As you know no one deserves to be hurt this way. So if this continues you will need to make a decisions which is more worth am talking about mental health here.

As for the weight it's not healthy being overweight no matter that people say you should feel beautiful the way you look. I mean if you want your organs decline one after another sure.

Fight girl and I hope things get better for you.

[Guy13]

It sounds like he is moving back towards his tendency. Small waist is the first thing I look at as it relates to shape. An almost grossly overweight woman still looks good with a small waist. It is not about being skinny as it is Shape.

[20yearsolder]

I got a better idea when you find a better boyfriend. If he's going on sites and asking other women to go on dates then he's really not into you in the first place. Dump his ass and find something better. Someone to treat you the way that you should be treated

[SnowedIn]

NO. You should not lose weight you should lose the boyfriend. You deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Uhm what… No if anything it’s sign you should dump that cheating disrespectful ass boyfriend of yours. Wtf.

[Stevefiveo]

That is a sign. Join a gym. Get advice for your fitness goals. Good luck.

[Alex8736]

sounds to me you need a new boyfriend

[In_Trance]

smh, no