Long story short, I’ve been losing weight over the last 4 months after the passing away of a relative, which really took away my appetite…
I’ve lost around 6 kilograms, which wouldn’t be a lot if I wasn’t skinny already before this happened. I’m just afraid that it’s too obvious and people will judge/ start making assumptions :( I’m doing a little better now but it’s been tough
Posting before (from last year) and now for reference
you are in depression, which is normal after death of a loved one etc. it is obvious, but you can get high protien/calorie shakes if you don't want to eat at least drink those or even take sips and maybe drink some Pedialyte, malnutrition, electrolyte if you aren't drinking dehydration, issues so many things can go wrong. Im sorry for your loss, its hard losing people i lost both my parents back to back. there are some of us on here who get it and no one, at least on my behalf is here to judge you, hang in there, hang in there
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THANK YOU for such loving words ❤️ When I started noticing the weight loss I went to the doctor and they recommended some shakes like that. It is hard losing people, I’m sorry for your loss too. Hopefully experiences like these will make us more empathetic and understanding, thanks❤️❤️❤️
now worries! you got this! with every passing day, it will become a little better and better, time doesn't change the outcome of what happened but it does heal in its own way. STAY STRONG!
It all depends what you lost. If it is mainly fat and you kept muscle mass, there is no real problem. But you need a special scale to measure it (they have in most gyms)
Its a good idea to work on some muscle definition , take this as a chance to build a perfect body , this will increase your appetite at the same time , dont worry about what some may think , work on eating a lot ( of the correct foods ) , and gradually build yourself up with toned muscle ( particularly those arms ) , your core is really good , and you can turn all around.
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I’ve been doing Pilates (as always) but not lifting! Always been so weak on my upper body hahaha thank you for the advice ❤️ I have been eating more protein bc I’ve been supplementing my diet with protein shakes (Doctor’s advice)
It is noticeable. You are starting to look unhealthy. If you continue to have trouble eating you should seek out some help. I’m not trying to be mean, but when you get unhealthy skinny, it’s extremely hard on your organs and can cause long term health issues. I’ve seen it happen with many people, including my sister.
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10 mo
I’m hoping I can get some weight back from where I stand ❤️ I’m not super underweight but I don’t want to reach that point either. Thank you and sorry your sister dealt with weight issues, it really can be difficult
You look fit in the right photo. Your a petite girl anyways. I don't see you as to skinny but maybe build some muscle in the upper portion. Your abs and legs look good.
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Thanks for the advice ❤️ I’ve been doing Pilates as usual but never tried lifting, so might give it a go… I have started supplementing my diet with protein shakes (Doctor’s advice) so that’s helped build muscle that I didn’t have before I think
It is very noticeable. Please start eating again. You look better and healthier in the left picture. I know what you are going through. I lost weight when my mom and dad died.
yes, you look very skinny, im not bashing on your progress but if i could, id click the reset button on your progress cause you looked better and heathier the way you were before
You've never been diagnosed. You lack any sort of tone and definition that would have come from dropping weight through working out. You're focused more on the number on the scale than the level of fitness it represents, because you're ultimately in no better shape now than you were in the before shot, you're just in a different shape. Your forearm and bicep are same size, indicating malnourishment and a condition of being underweight.
There's nothing mean about what I wrote. There's nothing simpy about what I wrote. There's nothing with any feeling about what I wrote. You asked a question, I answered. That's how the site works.
Point of fact, literally nothing in your post says you're trying to gain weight. The closest you come is "I'm doing better now" and that could mean a dozen different things. You're mentally better? Great, doesn't apply. Words have meaning and we can't be expected to infer that you're eating a high protein diet and working out 5x/week because you said you're "doing better."
There is something really strong about what you wrote, and that is assuming I have anorexia or any other eating disorder just through a picture. Rude, inaccurate, and false (I’m a resident doctor myself and I’ve been getting psychological help). Watch your words, even through a screen
If you're a resident doctor I'd expect a little more logic and a little less butthurt. Good that you're getting psychological help. Clearly that's working well for you. Clearly I was mistaken and your "psychological help" has not relapsed but progressed swimmingly.
At the end of the day, Doctor, you've modified your daily intake from a healthy level as an emotional response to a trigger. But I don't have to tell you that since you're a doctor. So it's irrelevant for the purposes of this conversation WHY that is, at a minimum, you've "relapsed" from a standard healthy baseline.
Watch my words? For what? Are they going to do a trick?
And just so you know, not every situation that triggers a decrease in daily intake can be tagged as anorexia. Anorexia comes with issues that I luckily don’t have rn (body dysmorphia, etc) but if I had them it would be none of your business either to just throw a diagnosis at anyone
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