What was your process to learn how to be alone?

[Cmoreins]

Whether you've been single for awhile or just became single, if you're content and happy being single right now, what was your practical process to get there?

What was your mindset process?

Did you go out more, stay in?

What was the biggest thing that helped?

[caring__1]

What has helped me is to actively focus on things that give me a sense of accomplishment. That can be working my farm or teaching others. As long as you see progress or believe others appreciate what you bring to the table, the desire to be connected becomes less overwhelming. Also, be realistic when you do attempt to connect with others. Never seek more than you bring to the relationship. Accept the preferences of others without taking them personally. For every type of person, there are people who appreciate that type of person. Be true to yourself rather than attempt to be something you're not, as the real you will always come out in the end.

The harder you work to find a partner, the more frustrated you'll be. Let people see you in action rather than obviously focus on seeking someone. Do volunteer work for an organization you believe in or participate in a group that promotes an interest of yours. Take on a role of responsibility, so people can see how you work and how you care about others. Prioritize the project rather than connecting with "The One." Eventually, someone will rise out of the crowd, and then it will be time to connect.

[nawtee_me]

Not letting others control my feelings. It is a choice that you make. You can still miss someone and be happy too.