Overcoming aloneness?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone ever feel completely alone? They don’t have friends, they don’t have a partner. It gets harder to meet people the older you get I feel I have no meaningful relationships and time is slipping away. What do you do, how do you cope?

[DaveJord]

Yes, at 47 and single... all my freinds are married with kids. That excludes you from a lot of things. Get out and be active... even if its just for walk in the park for few hours a day. Lots of single people with pets, I am not one of them. But some people just burry themselves in busy type activities... like working out 4 hours a day. Hiking is huge for this reason. I bike, kayak, hike, paddle board, camp, travel... I mean you just got to get over going to dinner to alone.

Update your dating profile and be open to taking chances... most guys will get over the sex thing for a woman that makes time and puts forth the effort without extensions expectations.

Pets can be a discriminator unless you are willing to leave them alone to travel... all the hobbies can become a discriminator if you are not willing to make time for real people.

[Asker]

I appreciate your thoughtful response, I’m glad I’m not alone, I think I need to get out of my head

[DaveJord]

I was married for 22 years and single for last three. The first two years were hard, because I like being married... just not to her. In the last year or so... I have had to really make the effort to get past it and just get the fuck out.

I travel and take trips, I stay in cabins, 5 start hotels, walks on the beach ext... I was resistant for a long time, because I never assumed dating would be so difficult if not near impossible. As you do get older, it just gets harder to find good people. Seriously, it almost seems like every person worth your time and effort are snatched up by 40. But once I got past the mental block and made that time for myself... its made a huge difference.

You would think a reasonably handsome guy, in excellent shape, who is physically active, finically secure offering essentially free travel and paid romantic weekend get aways would not have much trouble... FALSE! Women seem even more mistrusting of guys that truly have their shit together... if feels counterproductive sometimes.

At some point you just got to tell yourself and constantly remind yourself... that you are fucking feed up with excuses, from other, and most importantly yourself. If I am not going to accept bullshit excuses from other... then why are you accepting them from yourself?

Fuck'em, because I am not.

[Levin]

What do you feel is preventing you from meeting someone?

And I know how you feel, but as Ralph Smart says, you are only alone when you abandon yourself!

Check out some of his videos and try and move into a more positive space.

[Asker]

I definitely will check him out thanks for the advice

[rosemilk]

i enjoy my alone time! it's nothing to be sad or scared of. at the end of the day, all you have is you. you have to be comfortable being just you, that is how you survive as a person if all else goes to shit

once you have done that, you can start to try to open up to people. it is very hard to get to meet people after the pandemic happened and everyone seems really shallow, right? but there's still people out there that think just like you and would like to get to know you once you come out of hiding

[ChicoFromThe305]

I let God guide me, even tho I have no clue what's going to happen, I know the results will be the best, It leaves me with no space to worry.

[Asker]

It’s just so very difficult for me to get out of my own head

[ChicoFromThe305]

I know, I've realized listening to those thoughts just lead you down a self destructive path, for example enough time telling yourself that you don't have friends will eventually persuade you to believe that you never will and that creates roadblocks for yourself, you start worrying about it that you can eventually forget to be yourself, start creating personas to be liked, all that, your mind is only in control of your body, the stuff you feed it, it's what it will use, no one knows what will happen, you with your free will have the ability to make changes to your life, the only roadblock is yourself, just make the right choices and step out of your comfort zone, you'll be fine. Trust

[Asker]

Thank you 🤗

[ChicoFromThe305]

😬💯🙏🏽

[Joker_]

if you played your cards right every day, you could have friends or a partner in a year from now

[Asker]

I’ll try!

[Worst]

I'm single lol

[Joker_]

@Asker good fortune be with you

[Jmmmfi4]

YES I SUFFER FROM EXTREME LONLINESS

[Asker]

It’s a terrible feeling isn’t it.

[Evan64]

I just accepted it. People aren't worth it anyways.

[ThrillSeeker01]

I try to connect online. Or I just fantasize about being with someone.

[Hungryghostwriter]

Same. At the moment, I cope by drinking. Which is not good 👀

[bededazzle]

i try to accept things as they are

[Anonymous]

I feel you I have gone through this situation...

[Asker]

It’s really tough, especially when you have anxiety and depression

[Worst]

Drugs