What to do when you don’t want to fall in love?

[Anonymous]

There is one girl who likes me. We have many mutual friends so we often meet. She is really pretty. But after my last dating experience i want to stay out of this. I dont want to go through something what happened to me again. I will not do it to myself again.

[Anonymous]

You’re valid for feeling afraid after a bad breakup. With this girl, do you entertain her crush on you at all? Like flirting or giving her false hope even unintentionally? If so then you need to be upfront. Sure you don’t want to hurt her feelings but you also don’t want to string her along. If this is not the case and you’re only friendly then I’d say to just keep doing that but maybe create a bit of space so that there’s no confusion and no way for her to get the wrong impression. Hopefully she will register your disinterest and move on. In regards to your views on dating, maybe avoid it until you’re ready.
There’s no time cap on healing, so be kind to yourself and take it day by day. At some point in the future you will feel ready to try again, just be sure to keep in mind that not everyone is your ex, nor will they all hurt you. I’m sure she’s moving on with her life and isn’t still stuck in the breakup, so why should you be unable to do the same? Don’t let her be what keeps you from finding love, starting a family and all that if it’s what you want for yourself one day. She doesn’t deserve such a vital role in how you go about your love life.

[Anonymous]

Be a man about it. Tell her you don't like her.

[Christoff92]

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