On the dates you've been on how many people were you straightforward with and how many were you dancing around on whether you're interested or not?

[RoosterJuniour56]

what I mean is out of the dates you've been on how many were you direct with like yes I'm interested in continuing on with this or no I'm not interested or let me think on it I'm not sure, etc and how many were you more indirect with meaning you didn't make it clear on whether this is continuing or not or like you did that thing where you said oh um I gotta go to the bathroom but instead you dipped the fuck out

[FireGodGoesSeeknFire]

When I was young I danced more than was straight. in large part because what I would have called straight was a bunch of head cannon fantasies and fears all jumbled into each other.

As I got older I could more easily gauge which feelings were based an flights of fancy and where I should reserve judgement.

A trap some people fall into is thinking they can supress their flights of fancy and get accurate judgement. When you supress them you are not actually suppressing your minds fantasy component. You are surpress it's willing to acknowledge then. That means that when one slips by accidently you fall for ot even harder.

You have to take a lighter approach that accepts that most of what goes through our minds is nonsense and speculation. Just hold it lightly and you will be fine. Your brains grwK is proportional to the control you try exert on attention.