Why only men in their 40s are interested in me but not 25-31 year old guys want me?

[Anonymous]

I brust out into tears. I pay for this expensive dating site eharmony hoping a cute guy in his 20s or my own age would want me. The only men that would only seem to be intrested in me are 45-47 year olds. There is this one 46 year old that keeps insisting for dates to the point he wants marriage! I did try talking to this hot cutie who is 25 he told me he alredy had a girlfriend. I know he lie to me, If he were in a relationshiphe wouldn't bepaying for eharmony. This 25 year old hottie assume I can't have baies because of my age 30. The oldest guy want to date must be born in 1992 no more even 35 year old men are super old for me to date. Why would a 46 year men be so persistent in dating me but not a hottie who is 25 ?

Why would a 46 year old want to date a 30 year old woman?

[RavVid]

I am sure you have heard that men respond to signs of fertility - tight waist, firm breasts. And that we reach down rather than up in age. Some younger guys are going for older women to get sex but that seems to be because girls their age giving them any.

At 30 you are still fertile but the 25 yo guy might be thinking of babies after he turns 30 which means you are 35 and maybe not fertile still.

All other things being equal, guys will go for the youngest girl they can get.

In their 20's girls rule dating - everybody wants them. By 30's the power balance shifts to men.

[Asker]

Wait so you perfer a woman in her 20s rather then a 30 year old? Not sure what makes you th8nk a woman in her 30s can't benfirtile when now a xays there's 40 year old woman having babies. Your amdwer is wromg Sir.

[RavVid]

Nowadays is not our biological wiring is the simple truth of the matter Fertility treatments help of course..

[Avicenna]

LMAO, I dated a 30 year old when I was 46. I probably wouldn't have dated a 30 year old when I was 25 (my gfs at that time were 21/22).

I think you should be a little more flexible about the guy's age and focus on compatibility.

[Staximus]

You only want guys who are one year older than you or less? 5 years older than you is not a big age gap for a 30 year old. It's time to grow up and live in the real world, you're not in high school anymore. Dating guys in their 20's when you're in your 30's only works if you're super hot or they are super desperate.

[inhua]

not liking your options? how do you intend to fix this?

do you need us to shame these 25 year old men into liking you and shame these 40 year old men into not liking you?

[BoopBoopBeep]

One 25 year old? This is all premised on ONE 25 year old said no to you or a bunch of them?

[Asker]

A bunch of them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Gotcha. Well, everything on the table. Are you closer to that 30 or closer to that 35? And if I were to see your picture would I honestly think you are that age?

[Asker]

Im 30, looking for a 21-31 year old no more older then 31. He must bebborn in 1992 . I had 38 40 year olds approach me but It makes me uncomfortable.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well for a 21 year old, that's someone nearly 50% older than him, so unless you've really, REALLY taken care of yourself and just have a banging body, no I wouldn't expect very many of them to be interested in you. 9 years the other direction is less of an issue, say 31 to 40. Do you bring enough to the table for a 21 year old to pass up the younger fitter women? I dont know you, maybe you do, but you're going to have to either do that or find somebody with a milf fetish

[Asker]

Normally guys your age are the ones tht hit on me I dont even know why when I am looking for 21-31 year olds lol. I do I am dept free , Iown a paid off home I own a dodge ram truck which is paid off. I own a modest fashion retailer store. Yes I do have more to offer financially thena 21 year old girl.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I can look for pegasus, doesn't mean I find one.

You misread or misunderstood. I didn't say financially. Men don't care that you have a home and truck because that doesn't benefit them. Your finances are yours, not his, and he has very little to gain from them. Are you in shape? If you're hot that benefits them. If you had three kids and let yourself go and are 50lbs overweight then THAT matters to them.

[Asker]

Im skinny blonde blue eyes.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Hmm... where are you trying to meet them?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Rather, are we talking ONLY about eharmony or real life as well?

[Asker]

Both in person and online. I am an open book honest when I mention my age 30 they are all well I gotta run.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well there must not have been much of a connection otherwise, to be honest with you.

[Asker]

I hear this one before what exactly do you mean connection?

[BoopBoopBeep]

You want me to define for you what is a connection?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Stl-m_po6A4

[driven159]

why not age is just a number don't box yourself into a small group your night in shinning armer might be any age.

[slatyb]

Youth is attractive.
Forget E-Harmony, that's for religious fundamentalists. They would have called it Christian Mingle but that name was taken.

[SnowedIn]

If it's every guy then the answer is you and your profile.

[Fireguy17]

You should be able to set your parameters to narrow the age group down.
If not contact them.
Hang in there, that is where I met my wife.

[Berethor]

You not attractive enough to get a young guy.

[BlackJeep]

I only attracted women in their 20s. There is no bigger turnoff than dating someone who takes pictures of everything they eat and post on IG.

[LiamJHayden]

So you're upset that older guys are interested in you, but the younger guys are not interested in you, an older woman?

[jammcm]

Sorry, I think dating sites are the poorest way to go looking for a mate. Try your Church, I am sure they have an adult group.

[Anonymous]

It must be how you look... seems like you're not good looking enough to get younger guys...

[Bricealan]

Simple answer. You are younger than he.

[DextroShade]

Men prefer younger women, simple as that.

[Asker]

Why? I want a 31 year old in other word's tge giy must be birn in 1992.

[DextroShade]

If you want a younger guy you need to accept that he won't have money.

[VikingWarLord]

Is this a really serious question?

[OddBeMe]

How about 31-35 yr old guys? Nothing?

[Asker]

I want a 31 year old but I was told they want younger that Im to old. 35 now that is super old for me.

[OddBeMe]

Uhh I guess it depends on what kind of guy. The guys I know all have wives from their graduating class at college.

But perhaps if you did a legit study wives would be mostly younger by several years. But still i would look at the type of guy you’re going for.

[zagor]

Why not? I've dated 21 y. o.'s in my 30's.

[YosiEl]

Hypergamy.