Would you date someone who had 20+ relationships in the past and still maintains friendship with most of her exes?

[Anonymous]

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That depends. The statement "We're still friends" usually means something different to women than it does to men. To women it means "I got him to say we're still friends, so that means the break up is not my fault, he doesn't blame me". Of course it might be her fault and he may very much blame her, but if he gives her this absolution she will go away. If not, she hangs around nagging him to say it so she doesn't have to think about what role her actions had in the break up. If she actually still socialized with 20+ people she used to date, that would require some thought.

[Anonymous]

it depends on the individual's personal values and beliefs. Some may have no issues with this, while others may feel uncomfortable or insecure. It's important to communicate and understand each other's boundaries and expectations in a relationship.

[Rei13]

There is a difference between someone who is friends with all their exes where it just means they can be in the same room and have a conversation with them versus being friends with your exes where you’re messaging each other all the time or even going as far as hanging out with each other when you’re in a different relationship. The first one is just a sign of maturity and the other is obviously a red flag to be avoided lol

[FreakyBaby87]

Nope.

Because you can't identify a cheater any better than finding them in bed with one of those exs. They are called EX for a reason. Having one or two EXs as friends is okay... they may have been friends beforehand.

But having 20 EXs as friends means that that person is a cheap slut / whore / tramp or a man slut and not even remotely trustworthy. The ONLY sort of person who'd trust someone this CHEAP is an IDIOT.

[Asker]

they all are married apart from her last one

[Datboi65]

Even worse. Married people cheat, that's not a new discovery. He can cheat on his wife with your girl.

[FreakyBaby87]

All married. So she's some dirty slut, desperate & pathetic, to get involved with married men.

Seriously. What are you trying to date? The village well used whore that's cheaper than pond water.

[AviatorTom]

Yes, so long as she made me #1 on her list

[TheSpaceGnome]

If she doesn't cut off contact with her exes, you're not her #1

If she has that many exes, no one will ever be her #1

[Datboi65]

@TheSpaceGnome These heathens will call you insecure if you don't let then cheat in peace.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Datboi65 Cheaters are the insecure ones. They lack relationship security.

People keep using the word insecure the wrong way. An insecure person is a person who is in a position of vulnerability to a threat. People who cheat are far more vulnerable to stds, ending up alone, being stuck paying child support, unable to move on from an ex, lack of desireablity, etc.

[Datboi65]

@TheSpaceGnome And that's what I said. What you described is "gaslighting". A tactic they use to redirect the blame at you for being mad about their actions by acting like they are mad over your lack of trust when they are untrustworthy.

[Avicenna]

Those are some huge red flags, so probably not

[SnowedIn]

Yeah actually. Hallmark of a decent person who knows how to be mature and adult.

Not all romantic relationships are destined for marriage or even long term-ness and not should they be. Just because someone can break up and not have it be nasty and acrimonious isn't a mark against them.

[KrakenAttackin]

Bruh.. she will br banging these guys behind your back.

[Screenwriter]

Well, I'd wonder why there are so MANY exes. Is her picker damaged? Hmmm...

By "most," I assume you mean of the 23, (a guess) she remains friends with 16. Some people don't break up badly. Perhaps these guys are fine people, but ultimately didn't suit her as long-term partners.

This would give me a yellow flag with her. And, discover if she'd MAKE a good friend, first off. If that's good, perhaps proceeding to the next level is OK...

[CaptainOverthink]

I may.

It could just mean she is mature and have a nack for being a friend first. It probably also means her relationships have ended on good terms.
Besides, trust must come first either way, otherwise you're just building up suspicion from the start, it's a bad basis for a relationship. But I also understand how hard it is to trust sometimes, it's a battle for sure.

[crystalline0909]

Never. A guy who was unsuccessful in maintaining relationship with even one out 20 what are the odds of him being right everytime and all his exes being wrong. 1 over 20. The more the body counts the less likely he is going to be satisfied in a relationship sexually or emotionally. 80% chance of him being unfaithful. The next getting along with him will be just another addition in his list.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, I am neither judgmental nor insecure.

[Datboi65]

That's how you get cheated on.

[provokeesmokee]

I'd give her a try but I wouldn't think we'd last.

She'd be fun, but I wouldn't plan for a future.

[DubiousIntentions]

Not likely as I would probably wind up as #21. Just think of the complications if he has kids by just 1/3 of those past exes.

[richardcory]

Certainly. Nothing at all wrong with peacefully ending a relationship that isn't working but staying frinds

[Jersey2]

Nah. She is the common denominator in all those failed relationships. That doesn't mean I wouldn’t try and bed her.

[Anonymous]

if he still has friendships with them it means he treated them well

[DextroShade]

Recreational use only, she is not worthy of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

No, because it's a sign she lacks a sense of commitment.

[DermalPunch]

No, no and HEEELLLL NO. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

[LazerBean]

No just because of the amount of exes.

[Datboi65]

No. Next question.

[OddBeMe]

Hell yeah, seems like a level headed non confrontational woman. What’s her number!

[KrakenAttackin]

I would "date" her long and hard, but never take her seriously long term.

[Anonymous]

No! I seek a woman where we can be each other's first real relationship.

[snowboarder720]

Sure, as long as they are trustworthy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, and anyone who says yes is insane.

[exitseven]

Not unless she stopped doin it. b

[YesterdaysChild]

When hell sends out an SOS for snow plows.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a cult

[inhua]

some guys are just begging to be cheated on

[Sunflower766]

Sounds like a nightmare

[In_Trance]

Date, yes
It would never go further than that

[Anonymous]

Seems like hard work and high risk

[Opinion Owner]

In fact, I wonder what her scheduling model is. I mean there are several to choose from. Round robin, alphabetical, highest priority, least used. It's better to think these things through otherwise who knows what shoulder she might choose to cry on the next time she's upset after a meaningless argument.

[Anonymous]

Not knowingly.

[DarkLegacy]

I totally would not

[virtualwasp]

no hell.

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Kelly6]

Yes.

[dudeinohio]

Nope. Friends with exes is a no no.

[Beautyblossom2]

Never

[sheenagwapa]

yeah i think so

[sheikalana]

No LOL.

[gothbxtch]

sure!

[Jamie05rhs]

Fuck no. You crazy?

[Anonymous]

No, that is fucked up

[hardboiledink]

No that's crazy

[Lokiion]

Hell no

[Staximus]

Hell no

[boobliker]

not again

[Minahh]

No lol

[Kacka]

no no