Would you date someone with lots of exes?

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Kiran_Yagami · Accepted Answer

It all depends on circumstance. Having an active dating life is not necessarily a red flag. What matters is the manner in which she conducts her dating life. If she's getting plowed by different dudes every week I might think twice about treating her to dinner. If she can't hold any relationship for more than a couple months that's usually a sign that she has terrible taste in men or that she's a terrible catch herself. However, if she's had several long term, or even long term-ish relationships and is just someone who dates a lot then I can look past a long line of exes.

Thatswhyimhere · Accepted Answer

If they are just exes. I wouldn’t worry. However, divorced multiple... I don’t have time for that drama.

xXSaturnXx · Accepted Answer

Personally? If its more than a few then no, simply because there's a few reasons as to why they might have lots of exes.
1: They can't handle a relationship or they get bored and move on respectfully.
2: They are interested in people they obviously don't really get along with.
3: They are searching for the 'right' person by filtering through the 'wrong' ones.
4: They might just be a shitty person and cheat or ghost you.

Obviously there's probably a bunch of other reasons but it's 1:13am and I'm tired :D

StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

All My Exes Live in Texas... lol

ElissaDido · Answer

No. The less, the better.
Having lots of exes means one of these 2 things:

1. This man is into casual relationships/sex and doesn't look for settling down.
2. There is something really off about him, why would so many relationships involving him fail?

Either way, it would mean we're not compatible and look at things and life in a different way.

Pinay_ako · Answer

How many are we talking about here? 3 is max for me. More than that is a no for me

OlderAndWiser · Answer

At my age, most women have lots of exes, unless they just left the convent!

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Depends on how they became their exes.

missyfox · Answer

Yeah, why not? Everyone has a past.

I could be considered someone with a lot of past exes depending on what age you start counting, however, I've also been in a lot of abusive relationships some of which took time for me to leave. Plus, I've been judged on the amount of exes I have before and that's typically before they know my situation. Until you actually know someone, you can't know what's happened in their life.

Overall, I wouldn't want to be judged for the amount of exes I have, so why should I judge them?

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

Well I don't ask about his past in general, and unless he has a kid or something that I should definitely know about, I wouldn't elaborate on how many exes he has or with how many women he has slept. I prefer to focus on today. He is spending his time with me because obviously he's interested. If he wanted to talk about his past he would have been at a therapist...

smg99 · Answer

It doesn’t matter if I’m treated well. True pattern recognition helps me know risks to counter challenge but I give them benefit of doubt.
It’s good I’ve never committed myself to anyone because I’m too smart to be putting my eggs in one basket.
Nope. I’ve never pressed for a serious relationship because I observe them within a week.
If I see threatening mind games or if I’m in an insecure relationship I have countless options and if I don’t.
I retreat and always the priority is myself and peace or health above all else.

jgokgotit · Answer

I would. The way I approach relationships is that the past relationships do not matter, except in the case of STDs. Everyone gets a fresh start with me and how they act while going out with me is what matters. People change over time and relationships fail for all kinds of reasons. Even if my partner has fault in any past relationships, everyone has some fault when a relationship fails.

CaffeinatedCactus · Answer

I would. The past is the past. Although I dont like to waste my time dating if I dont see us being long term, but that would be a different issue! Benefit of the doubt, a lot of exes doesn't mean defective. Just means he hasn't found the right one yet!

PinkMichae · Answer

I would but I would be guarded until I could trust there wasn't something wrong with him or that he wasn't a player. But I'm not very judgmental and would give him a chance.

AvenolFinch · Answer

I would. Their past is their own, and if they spent it looking for the right one, and haven’t found it yet, then why couldn’t it be you? If she’s just in it for fun then you can move on and get over the heartache later, but what if she is the one for you? Why refuse to take a shot simply because she’s taken a lot of shots herself?

Anonymous · Answer

No because it shows that they cannot keep a relationship for very long especially when you're in your early 20s and already have like 10 exes. 🤪 It also shows that that person is quite desperate and most likely gets involved with anyone they have the chance to get involved with which means they probably don't love anyone they're with they just don't want to be alone. The fewer exes the better.

SlowRoast · Answer

I don’t get the Texas joke everyone is saying, but sure, if they’re settling down, it means I’m the perfect one 😇.

J3nny · Answer

all my exes live in Texas... fr i’m from Texas depends how many in a span of time. 3 in a year is a red flag. 15-20+ is also a red flag at my age. heck more than 5 at my age is a red flag

StephenCF · Answer

I’d date them, sure, if we were attracted to each other... however I would not have a relationship with them. They’d clearly have a poor record for stability or faithfulness, especially if they’re young and still had lots of exes.

I’d have more trust in a girl who’s never had a relationship to begin with, or if they only had one or two exes at most

Eridan · Answer

If I have to fight them off like Scott Pilgrim, I'd rather not. Although I'd probably do that for Ramona Flowers.
I don't really mind, as long as she's over them. But nothing puts me off more than a girl who can't shut up about her exes... it's probably just my ego, but leave your past in the past please

Máiiréad · Answer

Depends on the situations and stories behind them. Mostly likely probably not, but I'll let them explain their stories.

almondcake · Answer

I know you are a bit younger than me but at our age it is difficult to find someone without lots of exes but having said that , when is someone an ex , after 3 dates , 1 month 3 months etc. I've seen people for a month or 2 but I dont see them as an ex because I never considered them relationships.

lernulo · Answer

Date to casual relation? Yes
Date as a girlfriend? Most likely no.
Reasons? Bad conditions cn easily make a person doesn't have enough experience, but having All that experience and don't learn anything? It's dangerous.

datgirl · Answer

If i somehow found out while in the getting to know each other phase then no. He'd be immediately friendzoned. I would be questioning all the time why he had so many exes. It shows lack of stability and a multitude of other (possible) personality disorders.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

No, and i am ashamed that I have more than 1 ex myself.
I wish i would have not entered those relationships, now I know to enter a relationship, with the intention of starting a future with that woman.

Hurlyburly · Answer

Depends. How many are "a lot"? I'd say as long as the relationships lasted a reasonable amount of time (6 months and up) and he wasn't going in and out of them too fast its fine.

Shellyworld · Answer

No because his history is too chaotic for the future.

JoseJr · Answer

Personally, no chance. If there's a constant of relationships and break ups then how am I gonna change it?

Il0ve29 · Answer

Honestly my first and only boyfriend (now ex) had 13 ex’s when I dated home 😬 now 14 😉😂😂 so yeah I guess I would

Catsumi91 · Answer

I would have to know the reason why he has a lot of exes before starting a relationship with him.

NineBreaker · Answer

Having lots of ex's is a red flag, but I would if she clearly had a major paradigm shift in behavior or personality.

SjE78 · Answer

depends if i click with them, but yeah I have done in the past and would do in the future if I and they click

21browngirl · Answer

I might.. i usually dont try to sneak in a past.. if i like the present

midnightmoon05 · Answer

depends how long they are together and how it ended.

natured · Answer

If i am not his Next Ex after a week or so then yes, i do not judge people based on their past.

InTimoreDei · Answer

Between 1 and 2 only. Anymore than that is ridiculous. Especially nowadays when girls have 5 +.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

What's lots of exes? Do they commit after 1 date and break up by date 10?

LuvAsh · Answer

Thats a sign😂😂 i don't think that I want to put myself in that position...

Dlg1979 · Answer

Yeah, it'd be kind of odd not to.. because I AM that woman who's had lots of ex's

gothgirl997 · Answer

If they were goth and I liked their personality, sure

leestella1999 · Answer

Yes as long he is mature and do not have crazy relationships with them

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Depends on the reasons. The break ups could be 100% persons A1's fault, 100% the other persons fault or somewhere in between.

crazy8000 · Answer

Depends little on why they are exes. many times does it shows why very early without even making research.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It would give me pause. But at my age odds are she's going to have a few.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Yes. She'll likely end up on my own, "no" list anyway.

lacaras · Answer

I think I would if we click, maybe depends how many is "lots" if she has a new boyfriend every couple weeks I would probably pass

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend has a decent number. At least supposedly. She was never asked out or vice versa. They just did things that couples did.

Smegskull · Answer

Casual or serious? If someone has >3 failed serious relationships there's probably something wrong with then

elissa23Trans · Answer

Only if they all lived in Texas 😂

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Yeah as long as she would lie to me and say its fewer than me

GreenGold1992 · Answer

probably not, someone with lots of exes might mean there's a problem with them.

McKellar · Answer

That's a good question. Unfortunately I have never put too much thought into this one.

Poormanscomedian · Answer

If I knew, probably not, you got to figure something is wrong

PoohBoy38 · Answer

I wouldn't. Cause they won't get a long well with me

Agem123 · Answer

Yeah. They're supposed to have a life before they met me, right?

TheIceManCometh · Answer

That is kinda disgusting but these days most people are gonna have a lot

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I would date them for me it's not so much how you start it's how you finish that matters

BeHappy1985 · Answer

I have a whole bunch of exes in my Program Files folder.

moshy113 · Answer

Yeah💆... I have a few exs myself but not to many just trying to find that one and you won't by siting in the side lines.

fonduegirl · Answer

it's better than first timer lmao 😂😂☺

Benny_Oakley · Answer

Probably not, even though I say that I still probably will

agamo · Answer

As long as they don’t talk about their exes.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I did once and it cost me a lot of headaches. There are stalkers, psychopaths and obsessive people out there. I don’t want that.

DragonsFly · Answer

This why women lie and say... just one. Lol 😆

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