Would you date someone that has kids with an ex?

[Anonymous]

Could be one or two…
They have kids with an ex that obviously didn’t workout

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Yeah I would. I really like my guy best friend, he has kids; he’s a great, sweet, caring, loving dad, person, friend and everything all around. He’s a really hard worker too

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for the MHO

[Andro36]

My husband has a kid. I have a great relationship with his ex. You just need to be mature enough

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I would not. I am not of the age or responsibility to consider being with someone who has kids. If I were older, and with my own kids, I would consider it.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

Nope, not one bit. Its too much since it would be much more work to cultivate time alone to get to know each other better due to it, I presume, having to be sectioned off between keeping in contact with the ex to see whats going with their kid, time for the kid, the ex potentially being a bitter one. That might cause a stir once she finds out that their dating and wondering if the parent is taking their kid around their date. I would not want to deal with any of those potentials when there are people who are childless and single that I could go after.

[xboxfan1213]

Can I ask you a question

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

@xboxfan1213 sure, whats the question?

[xboxfan1213]

Could date an incredible man if he only has a average size penis

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

@xboxfan1213 what the--- I don't know how that question relates to the topic at hand but ok ill answer.💀 Yeah, I would but better be a cunnunglis champ alongside it.

[xboxfan1213]

So you would definitely date a man that has a huge dick but sucks at cunnuglis

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

@xboxfan1213 jeezuz take this troll away please.

[Kaamraj]

Casual dating and sex, yes but anything more serious no, having children is 100% up to the woman. Once sperm leaves the man's body, he is completely powerless to what happens with it. Carrying the fetus to term is completely the woman's decision and should be done preferably when the man has already given his commitment and consent for the same, and the best way in the past and even now to do that is via marriage. There is a difference between single mothers whose husbands died (widowed), were genuinely abusive and proven in court, compared to men who simply were not married and later left. Because the former shows effort to do things right.

[Lliam]

Sure, but not if the kids lived with them. I don't want kids around and I don't want to support them financially. Plus, her kids would understandably come first.

The best girlfriend I ever had was 31. She had a rough childhood and then got married and had a son when she was around 17, but she got divorced a few years later. When I met her, the son was in his mid teens and lived out of state with his father and grandparents but came to visit on occasion. She had turned out to be a remarkable woman and I loved her with my heart and soul. We virtually lived together for over a year but, alas, a lifetime together was not meant to be.

[GlassTop]

You’ll never be daddy. The child might never respect you as a father. The mother will always prioritize the child. All the hard work and care you put into raising the child will be for nothing, because it’s not your child. Unless you raised it as an infant and all they knew as a father was you, but then that means the mother had just recently had a baby by another man so what went wrong? What happened between them could happen to you. A child is usually what keeps a relationship together, and if it’s not your child then you don’t have that bind. It’s just not worth the time, effort, trouble, and drama. Lets not forget that eventually the father will show up in the picture, or the child will go looking for the father unless they died.

[Guanfei]

Can't answer, I don't know. What I know is that it's difficult, because since it's not my kids, I'll have to live with them and support them, if things get serious, without being able to have an opinion on anything about them.
Also, they'll always be a priority for the girl, which means we couldn't even see each other as much as we'd like.
And finally, the relationship with them might make things hard. I could bond with them well, and in case of a break-up, it's hard to know I won't see them anymore. And if they don't like me, even if things go well with the girl, it wouldn't work because she can't date someone her kids don't like.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I would, even though I've heard others say that Children are the ultimate STD that cannot be cured. Just cause things did not work out, doesn't mean it was their fault. If their spouse cheated on them and they left them over it, should they forever be single as a result of that?

I have dated men with children and it can be awkward for sure, but I think children should stay out of the picture until things get very serious.

[Anonymous]

I might, but not likely. There would have to be really good reasons for why she is a single mother and I would have a lot of questions. Did she have sex with a low quality guy and have multiple kids with him without knowing he would be a good and dependable father to her children? Did she have casual flings and end up getting pregnant? Did she leave the father? If so, why? Did she choose to be a single mother and then decide she wants help raising her kids? If any of the above, I have no interest.

Was she widowed? Was the father a seemingly good man who turned bad or decided to leave? If it's something like that, I might consider dating her.

[Anonymous]

C - it depends. Half of marriages end in divorce and women file the vast majority of them. A man would be very wise to know exactly what the circumstances were that led to her being a single mother before dating her.

When in comes to parenting men effectively have responsibilities without rights. A man who is considering putting himself in that position would be wise to proceed very carefully, especially if the kids are not even his and the mother already has a track record of divorcing the father and looking for another man to help raise her children.

[ryanrhino]

It was definitely an option for me to date a mom when my eldest daughter's mother decided to divorce me. The new love of my life loves being an X-mom (step-mom), as my at-the-time 9 year old called my then-girlfriend (now my wife for over 7 years) at the time.

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe but only if its one kid and they must be age 2+ (i need them at least potty trained) but under 7 (where they’re still young enough to give new people a chance). The older the child, the harder it is to win them over and have them accept what you’ve got going with their parent

[DizzyDesii]

And the other parent must already be in another relationship and never showing interest in the kids father aka my man

[MrtoddsWildRide]

After my mom died and dad met a woman, my older sister and I were thrilled that he had someone. My younger sister was only ten, but she loves her step mother like she was her birth mother. It's a different circumstance, but not too far off.

[DizzyDesii]

@MrtoddsWildRide lol im shocked i even believe in what i said because i despised anyone my mom brought home starting from the age of 5 😂 I think i could just sense his their bad vibes before she could

[Adderallman4422]

I've gone most of my early adulthood playing "daddy" to people's kids, I've shown love care and compassion, until I had my own then I felt true love, it's not easy eathier way because if you take someone else's kids on (with NO parting background) it's hard to know what to do and if you have your own kids it's hard to love someone else's the same, you can't win eathier way with kids, I love my child to bits and I'll tolerate his behaviour because I love him, as for other people's kids I find them annoying little basterds

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I don’t want to have kids of my own. What makes you think I’ll be with someone who is already a DADDY’O.

I’ll find me someone who is free of child expenses who also doesn’t want no brats, who is willing to go on adventures and travel with me. Cause I ain’t doing the whole motherhood parent BS.

[annabananna]

I’m married to someone who had kids with an ex. The hardest part is always having his ex in your life in some way because she is the most toxic person I’ve ever met. She stalked and made up a bunch of horrific lies like calling his parents and telling them I’m a prostitute but they didn’t believe her cause they know how she is. It has gotten better but I was scared of what she might do for the first few years. She’s pointed guns at people before so I was scared she might go to the next level.

[Anonymous]

C: It depends.

If she has recently gotten divorced and/or broken up it’s a big no thanks. Chances are she got knocked up by some abusive/negligent asshole and all of the sudden I’m an attractive “savior” to her since I’m a nice guy. Fuck that and fuck her poor decision making with the previous guy. I hate women like that.

However if she has been long broken up and it’s already an independent and responsible parent who wants companionship and NOT just support i would consider it.

[MCheetah]

No. I'm not trying to be a cuck or raise someone else's kids. I don't even want kids myself and a single mother will NEVER have you as a priority in her life. How could she?

[Asker]

How would you be a cuck? They are separated already

[MCheetah]

One definition of a cuck is raising another man's kids. Really no different than having a woman sleep with one guy, while you clean up his mess. Sorry, but your problems aren't for other men to clean up. And I'm definitely not changing diapers or buying birthday toys for anyone else's kids.

[Asker]

All we ask is you provide by pay the bills, kids school supplies clothes and food and toys etc. Pay the rent and such.

[MCheetah]

You're either a male troll catfishing, or insanely delusional. Both are equally likely.

[TruthBringer]

@Asker Yeah you're def a troll. It's obvious that financial cucking is a thing.

[menina]

I wouldn't. I wouldn't be able to deal with his kids and I probably would have to deal with their mom too. Too much drama and stress, I don't need that.

[jshm2]

Yeah well, would be from an ex, wouldn't it?

Would be a bit awkward dating someone who has stolen kids from down the road, you should think.

Perhaps you're too shy to say "single mom" or "single dad" kiddo?

[whirled_up_girl]

Yes, even when I was younger I dated a guy that had a kid with an ex. At my age now it could be very likely that I would date a guy who had a a kid or kids with an ex.

[Drumlin2001]

Not obvious it didn't work out. The ex could have been killed...
Anyway, I'd be a hypocrite to say no as I'd have my two amazing kids in tow. I'm not too keen on a new baby, but open to step kids, if I were ever single

[Levin]

Likely not.

Especially since women usually date dickheads or thugs who then cause drama going forward.

[pixie215]

as long as they are no longer sexually active together like no random hookups then yeah it would be fine

[Gigi2019]

I'm not looking, but, if I were, I would not be interested in dealing with anyone other than my partner.

[UniquelyBasic]

Personally I dont want kids so I wouldn't at this point in my life. I dont want to waste their time or get involved with their kids and potentially have them experience yet another departure.

[Mofunfour20]

Hell NO. Men that take single moms are weak simps. Lions don't even take single moms with cubs, they kill the cubs 100% of the time.

[jasco]

At one point, I would have but honestly I don't think I would. I can already see some single mothers being an ass to their replacement fathers just because its not their kid. I don't wanna deal with that nor the stress that comes with it

[girlwithglasses01]

now, it totally depends on why the relationship didn't work. if it is for some silly reason that the kid would have to suffer for, too careless for my liking. But if it is some genuine reason, i adore kids

[Avicenna]

Nope. There is no benefit to getting involved in that circus. Have your own kids, ones you have a real bond with.

[Dargil]

I would consider it, but I would want to know what the ex's relationship with the kids is. I do not want him in my life in any way.

[Jamie05rhs]

But that's fucked up, though, because the children should have a relationship with their father.

[Dargil]

@Jamie05rhs Fair enough. But I said "my life", not the kids. Her choices are her own. I do not want the ex to insert himself in my life. I have lived this. Better the pull the plug and look elsewhere.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. I understand.

[Iron_Man]

I could date the woman but I’m not gonna be the father that’s not my responsibility thats the father‘s responsibility

[worldscolide]

Depends on the situation. If she alienates the father, doesn't let him have access, treats him badly, Absolutely not.

[Berethor]

I rather not, a girl like that bring too much baggage with her.

[commonerscoffee]

Well I wouldn't want to date someone if they had kids with a partner they were currently with.

[20yearsolder]

I have and I married her and we've been together for 35 years

[JamesRandiDebates]

I would bone the bitch, but not actually date. And I never want to meet her crotch goblins.

[DermalPunch]

Yes, but not without looking deeply into the details of their specific situation.

[HighValue]

No. Having kids from a past relationship is an automatic DQ for me.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Not that I can't or the other person might not deserve it, I just simply refuse to put myself in a situation that's not so comfortable

[Reijen]

Nah.
Tried it with one woman, but she was always busy with her kid.
Not a bad thing mind you, children should get priority. Just not conducive to developing a relationship.

[megabamse]

It depends on how many kids. 1 is fine, 2 is pushing it

[TacosRAwesome]

Unsure. I don't think I'm in the headspace to be a mum yet.

[exitseven]

I used to think this was a dealbreaker but if the kids were older I would be okay with it,

[McKellar]

I've dated a mother once,... I didn't mind if she has children or not.

[Hairylegs222]

No. I used to when I didn't know why. I know why now and never again.

[MrtoddsWildRide]

At my age, that would put most women out of the running.

[scott04sa22]

I don’t date single mothers because she stills lingering with her kids biological fathers

[Nahid1707]

i respect single moms and i am good friends with a single mum. To answer your question, no because drama

[Dchrls78104]

No, I would not date a woman who has a child or children.

[Staximus]

It's unrealistic for me think women my age won't have kids

[Anonymous]

I never liked to say never. But I would would look at a woman with kids much, much harder then one without yes.

[Waldoe]

maybe only a few that are open minded, but you don't want another 'Jerk' anyway

[Desconhecida]

If I loved the person, yes.

[Anonymous]

Someone who treats children well is just so attractive to me. So if he treats his kids well then yes.

[The1Girl]

No, that's not for me

[Anonymous]

I would date them until I have sex so I can stop being a virgin

[COoperativez]

Did it , now I’m a step mommy and have my own

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I would and have.

[Bluemax]

Certainly. I would and I have.

[bingbongbangbung]

Only if they're a widow or I was a single parent

[Uptowngirl88]

Are you stupid? girl delete this question

[Asker]

What why