Would you date somebody that has kids from a previous relationship?

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emeraldsaphire · Accepted Answer

I don't know. I don't see to many guys my age with kids to be honest. I think it would depend on a lot of things.

1 What is the reason for the break up. Once there is a child involved it isn't just about you anymore. Was the break up because you got board? If yes the no way!

2 Who is involved in the raising of the child? If we are talking about the other mom being in the picture and the grand parents and moms siblings, then no way! Like I don't even want the mom to be involved. 😅 which seems really selfish of me, but I don't want drama.

3 Does the child like me? I've heard a lot about how the children of single parents will plot against you. Which I get, but I don't want there to be a conspiracy against me. And I don't want to bend of backwards to let them to like me.

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

Yes, but only if they are being a great parent to their kids and were respectful to and got along with the parent (s) of their chil (ren). I would also be curious about why they broke up. If the reason isn't good, or if they did something horrible then no. It's like a living, breathing resume of what you can expect in the future of your on relationship. If the children weren't raised right, then that's a major no as well. But, kids their selves aren't a deal breaker.

Guido · Accepted Answer

Yes I would and did. When I was 19 I dated a woman 24 and she had a kid. Dating her was more about sex then anything else. When I started dating my now wife, she had a kid and I also had a couple of kids so we became a nice lovely family. She is more of a mom to my kids then my ex is and I am a dad to her son as her ex never had anything to do with him. We have 3 kids all grown up and we are the parents they spend time. with.

As you get older, it is harder to find someone to date that hasn't had kids. The pool of women without kids at an older age is pretty low. In your early 20s it's fine to date women without kids but by mid 30s you need to think differently.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes, as long as she isn't relying on me to take care of her kids financially and depending on me to hand my wallet over when her kids need things , If she is independent and has her shit together then I would more than likely date her and treat her kids with respect and kindness , especially if their father was still in the picture, if he wasn't in the picture I would try to be a role. model for then if they accepted me into their lives

Avicenna · Answer

Only if all of the kids were grown up, living on their own and not financially dependent on her. Otherwise, no.

ManOnFire · Answer

Have already done that before.

Benjiman19 · Answer

Absolutely I would. If the woman turns me on, gets me going, makes me smile and laugh and I enjoy my time with her, why would I let the children who aren't mine get in the way of my happiness or a relationship that is good? I love children, I don't have a problem with them whether they're my own blood or not. I'm still going to treat them as if they were my own.

Holsen · Answer

Personally no, as much as I like kids I wouldn’t as i would be stepping on my needs and desires like I just want to find out what my child will be like , its personality and so on and also I want to feel the bond between me and my wife and later on add our child in the equation and form a good shared bond with it together, I don’t want to feel the bond that my wife and another man would have and just make my way in it since that man isn’t part of the equation anymore!!

JacobJordan · Answer

No. For multiple reasons. 1 I don't want to raise another man's kids. 2 I don't want to be with a woman who had been with other people. 3 the level of intimacy will be difficult as a result.

Wife response: no as well. For largely the same reasons in addition i don't need the added trouble of dealing with the ex if they share custody.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Possibly. She might be a widow. I like older women, so her child (ren) might be over 18 and out of the home. If she is like below, Hell to the No.

SolitarySolace · Answer

My counselor thinks I should give it a try.
My mom doesn't like the idea but maybe she'd accept it over time if I were to.
I'm just worried the woman may make me pay the child support for a child that isn't mine or something like that that I shouldn't have to do.
I don't plan on ever having my own kids so of I were to ever have kids they'd by adopted.

genericname85 · Answer

i mean having kids from a previous relaitonship is a pretty huge negative point. i basically have an intuitive (not like strict and litteral) pro/cons list going on in my head when i think about dating a girl. and she would have to have some huge stuff on the plus side to counter that.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Maybe. Don’t know. Kids are fine. But they wouldn’t be mine. I think it’s inconsiderate for a spouse to put that back on me for my preference when I had zero control over their life. I’m also understanding of life circumstances fucking us over without our approval.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

The kids are fine. I wouldn't have any problem with them. Especially at my age, the partner probably would have grown up or almost grown up kids :D

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

High school maybe if she brings a lot to the table. They won't be around long and I don't have to raise them. Little kids? Hell no.

Jbear27 · Answer

Depends on the age of the children. It’s really hard to date someone with really young children because their time is spread very thin.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sure and have done in the past. Anyone that says no is probably not dating material anyway.

exitseven · Answer

When I was younger I would have flat out said no. Now if her kids were older like high school age I would be okay with it

Asimiv · Answer

Yes, I already have. Thought I would marry him, but it ended up not working out

HelpfulWoman · Answer

I wouldn't, because I have my own. I've no interest in adding more kids to my life.

tzdc21 · Answer

At this stage of my life, nope. Can that change in the future... possibly. But I'm not banking on it

AaronKrieger · Answer

Maybe when I am older, but I do not want the responsibility right now.

Anonymous · Answer

Been there, done that. My first girlfriend had a 2 year old by the time we fucked. She turned 3 a week later.
My 3rd girlfriend had a kid several years before we met but it died while it was still inside her.

Zenpanda · Answer

Only if the dad is dead. To much potential for drama otherwise.

DextroShade · Answer

Not unless I was a single dad, and even then she had better bring something to the table other than her body and her kid. As I currently have no children it would be a total deal-breaker.

sheikalana · Answer

My husband has a kid from a previous relationship. It was never an issue for me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Given I'd be bringing 2 kids with me it would seem a little unfair to reject someone for having kids

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, as long as she doesn't have 3 kids by 3 different guys or didn't have a kid with some guy she never had a serious relationship with

KrisKris81 · Answer

How many kids from how many previous relationships?

Vegasrunner · Answer

Depends on the age of the kids. Typically 5 and under its a bad move for a man.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

No offence intended No i wouldn't... Honest answer 🙏🙂

Raaj4you · Answer

No, I can't. I want to enjoy life with my new wife after the wedding before having babies.

dolemite58 · Answer

i’ll hook up with a woman that has kids i wouldn’t date her though. I don’t have kids and i wanna date women that don’t have kids either.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Nope never get attached to kid then if ended be twice as upset so as rule never

Pohjolan · Answer

She better come with big mommy milkers in that case.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe if she were a millionaire supermodel. But generally, no.

NavyOU37 · Answer

No. Way too much drama.

Brittanykeen88 · Answer

Yes. I also have kids.

Tim2nice · Answer

Yes. Kids don’t bother me. I love them

clampfan101 · Answer

That’s a big maybe, but not an automatic no.

ReverseCowboy · Answer

No. Why would I pay for some other guys kids?

Carina0 · Answer

Not at this age but for a few years from now, yes

Simslover92 · Answer

Absolutely not

LazerBean · Answer

Hell no

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Hard to find someone who doesn't

Christina1227 · Answer

Yes I would because I love kids

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Why wouldn’t I?

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

Never.

Nifrayu · Answer

Yes.

jahaims · Answer

Definitely not

dudeinohio · Answer

Sure

Anonymous · Answer

no thank you

Darkest-Knight · Answer

Absolutely

A_Good_Boy · Answer

Absolutely NOT❗

riverrat3 · Answer

Of course

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