How can I speak to him?

[Anonymous]

Over a year ago I saw him at the gym and immediately developed a crush. I made it obvious but he didn’t do anything.

Almost a year later he finally has the guts to talk to me and we click. But I had a boyfriend so I told him. He still tried to pursue me but I didn’t allow it.

It’s now over 6 months later and I still like him and I’m single. I still see him at the gym and he tries to ignore me but I know he likes me back.

What should I do?

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1 y

Ok guys so I guess I have to build the courage to talk to him 😂 Maybe I’ll use a machine at the gym as an excuse to start the convo. Maybe I could smile at him next time? I don't know I’m actually awfully shy when I like someone lol

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1 y

Update - I saw him again and he made the most intense eye contact with me 🤣 I got so shy!!! Definitely can’t speak to him now and gonna wait for him lol

[Truthatanycost]

Be wiser. You are wanting to invite a man into your life that continued to pursue you despite knowing you already had a partner. Therefore this suggests he is not loyal or does not have much respect for such a status. Thus it tells you something about his levels of loyalty if he was with you...

[Asker]

Do you really think so? Maybe he just liked me?

[Truthatanycost]

You said 'maybe he just liked me' but that could also be applied to any other girl he found attractive if he was with you...

[Asker]

But he was single at the time I was the one in the relationship

[Truthatanycost]

I'm looking at things from an all round perspective.

[Avicenna]

Talk to him. tell him you're single and ask him out on a date

[Asker]

Would you mind if that were you? That I rejected him previously but I was honest about it.

[Avicenna]

Well, unless a guy is immature and stays butthurt about being rejected, he should be happy to go on a date with you. But you do have to take the initiative and clearly explain why you are now interested.

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't mind that at all- I'd be surprised but very happy

[Asker]

Okay great to know! This is what I was worried about

[serious]

What should you do?

Well, what is the problem? If you are single and he is single too and you still like him then what is stopping from making the first move?

I am sure he likes you too, he still likes you. I think he is ignoring you because he is not sure anymore if you still like him or not.

What you are wondering maybe he is wondering the same thing.

[veganrogue]

I'm a bit cheeky so I'd write on a piece of paper, 'Here's your chance' then I'd list 3 time slots when you are free and your phone number, Then write, text me what time works for you. That's it, the ball is in his court. No awkward convos necessary.

[bowenw]

Just talk to him. I doubt hi will mind. If he does you will know he is no longer interested.

[bowenw]

Start by smiling at him and if you are brave ask him how he's doing.

[Asker]

Okay 😭 I can do this lol

[bowenw]

I'm sure you can. You have nothing to lose.

[Asker]

Except I’m very shy when I like someone lol

[bowenw]

A lot of people are the same. Try smiling or waving to start to see how he reacts.

[Asker]

Hopefully I can build the courage 🤣

[bowenw]

I'm sure you can do it. Take deep breaths.

[Losalt]

Just tell him that you're single now if he's still interested.
Of course starting up with a casual conversation first might be a good idea...

[TonyMetal___86]

Just go and talk to him, you will find a way princess rapunzel 😉