How to slide into DMS... Properly?

[Anonymous]

So there's this girl I've been working with and we do talk at work but haven't spoken outside of work yet - However, we do get along well together and we recently followed each other on Instagram recently... I've gained some feelers for her but don't want to make it obvious so since we've followed each other on instagram I've just been wondering if there's a way to slide in and start talking to her.

[MementoMori777]

In today's day you need an excuse and since y'all work together a work related excuse is perfect, anything you can come up with that fits in your situation, from there it's up to you to keep her interested and keeping the convo alive.

[Lokiion]

I mean yeah you could but a work related thing isn’t the best route

[MementoMori777]

It is for a long term plan, being too straight forward will make you look like a creep, this isn't just some random girl for him, he works with her, he can't fumble or it will effect his work environment too, he has to come off natural not like you've been eagerly waiting to get in them Dms lol

[Lokiion]

Thats not what I meant also you can be straight forward if you got a mouthpiece and know how to talk ik a lot of people who do this with a high percentage of there shots hitting usally takes around 10 text messages to make her feel comfortable and shit and then a call so she can really get to know your personality and decide if she like you or not also there’s so many better ways to slide into dms (if she not mad popular if she is then it’s just a low chance thing if she even see’s it) but he said it’s instagram so a better way could be to slide up on a story and ask a question or say something about the story and then you can build up that question or whatever you said bout the story and lead it into the number so you can get on a call even better would be a FaceTime remember it’s not about what you say but how you say it if you don’t trust yourself enough whatever you say going to be weird also

[MementoMori777]

The choice is up to him, what I said stands, he takes whatever advice he wants to take, it's not really my problem

[SnowedIn]

There's only one proper way at work: not at all.

Don't date or get involved with people at work. It doesn't end well.

[Lokiion]

Dm I can tell you a good way to slide in depending on how she operates her account and stuff

[Asker]

Won't let me DM, DM me instead

[Kaylawinters11]

Just approach her at work and ask her out

[Lokiion]

this not really the best advice since from how it sounds she just thinks of him as a friend

[Kaylawinters11]

@Lokiion if she only sees him as a friend what difference would it make? She won’t be interested either way. Some women prefer men to step up and have the confidence to ask them out in person instead of from behind a keyboard