What crush do I choose?

[Anonymous]

Sooooo I have 2 crushes. And I have no idea what one to pick. Here are the pros and cons:

CRUSH 1:

So I've had a crush on him for almost 6 months now. He is super cute and I get butterflys when I see him. But, I have no idea his personality. I've only seen him around, but never talked to him. He is friends with some annoying people and he might be like that too.

CRUSH 2:

Ok, so this one's tricky. He is kinda cute, def not as cute as crush 1. He talks to me all the time and even walks back to class with me. He is kinda weird bit in a funny way. But I also get butterflys when I see him. I do things like fix my hair and my makeup when I see him. I never do stuff like that for crush 1. But... one small problem. There's a 50% chance he has a girlfriend. He's never mentioned her to me or have I ever seen them together. So it might be a pointless crush.

Which one makes most sense?

Updates

+1 y

Ummm so just asked. He has a girlfriend. Welp I have no idea what to do now.

[Summeroflove]

Okay. The crush you like the most is who you should go for first. See if he wants to go out maybe for coffee on the first date. If things don’t work out you have crush number two.


If things go really well and you start loosing interest in the other crush. That’s great

[Anonymous]

Get 2 if you can confirm he is single. If he definitely isn't loose it even if he keeps the usual attitude with you. That would mean he is using your feelings for the ego boost. Or he might "test" you to see if he can cheat or replace his girlfriend, and this behavior isn't good news for you if you happened to end up with him. Personally I wouldn't even bother with 1. You said you don't know much about his personality but him being friends with people you find annoying is a good tell. It's likely that he ressemble them in some way.

[Asker]

This actually helps a lot. Thanks!

[_Maya_]

Out of the two I would say the second one. I don't get a good vibe from the last part of what you say about crush 1. He may not be like his friends that are annoying but guess what? Even if he isn't you're still gonna have to deal with being around them since they are friends. That's not going to be fun. Crush two you aren't sure about the girlfriend. What makes you think he's got one if you've never seen them together? Just curious to know why you think he's got a girlfriend.

[Asker]

My friend told me that he is dating some girl, but she might be lying. I have no idea

[_Maya_]

You don't settle for the other guy if you aren't 100% sure about him and it doesn't sound like you are totally convinced. The only thing is that I'm a big fan of giving someone a chance.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Do not trust butterflies blindly.


You should get to know both of them and make your selection based on which one you feel happier spending time with.