My boyfriend and I had an argument?

[Anonymous]

It takes him so long to understand something that hurts me. To the point where I just want to end things. After I tell him that then he understands but then say he needs time for himself because I was mad. He would say something like "well I won't care, so I didn’t think you would" but then when I say it hurts he wouldn’t get it. I’m frustrated that he never understands, and that is takes much for him to understand and apologize. He would in a way turn it on me. What should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

That's rough. Fights with your boyfriend are never fun. But from the sounds of it, this guy just ain't getting it.

When you tell him something hurts your feelings, he should care enough to understand right away, not make excuses or need "time for himself" after the fact. That's BS.

Plus turning it back on you instead of saying sorry is a major red flag. Sounds like the only thing he cares about is himself in these situations.

I'd tell him straight up that's not okay. If he's gonna be in a relationship, he's gotta learn to listen, understand your feelings, and own up to mistakes right away without making you feel worse first.

Give it one more shot having an honest talk. But if nothing changes after that, you deserve someone who respects your emotions, not just thinks about their own needs all the time.

You can find better than that. Don't waste time on dudes like him who won't even try and make things right with you. Your feelings matter here!

[Asker]

Thank you so much, this helped a lot!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome. Happy I could assist you at your service madamé

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a bitch ass who let's his woman walk all over him.

[Asker]

Okay well I guess you wouldn’t care then if you girlfriend would cancel plans with you to go hangout with her friends

[jahaims]

You sound like you are just bad at communicating and take it out on others for not understanding