Choosing a date with a guy over making potential friends?

[Monalisa77]

I struggle with making friends but i think i flare better getting guys interested in me, I've had better responses from them. Anyway my parents are out all night next Saturday and i struggle being on my own in the house for that long

As im hoping to see the guy i like on Friday im going to try and suss a date out, now im away the following weekend and need to be up early the Sunday the week after so the only other night we could do is possibly Friday but im not sure id want to tell my mother about him so id prefer doing it when theyre out... But i need backup incase i dont get the date or its too short notice for him

Do i need to stay loyal to the people who have made no effort to become my friend and feel bad if i ditched them for him or should i wait and be confident hed wanna go out that night?

Updates

+1 y

My mum isn't the type to care, she will go out regardless as she thibks im fine on my own

[Anonymous]

It's important to strike a balance between your social life and potential romantic interests. While it's great that you've had success with guys, it's also valuable to invest time in building friendships. Friendships can provide support, companionship, and long-term connections.

In your situation, consider communicating with both your potential date and your potential friends. It's not about being disloyal, but rather about managing your time and commitments. Try to find a date that works for you and the guy you like, and also maintain contact with your friends to nurture those connections. If your parents being out is a concern, you might want to discuss this with them to find a solution that makes you feel more comfortable about your plans.

[Monalisa77]

Well as i said im not sure i want my mum finding out about him and i this soon, no point if it didn't work out. These people have had countless times been able to make an effort to make friends witb me, if they agree to do something itd likely be out of pity so my parents can have a night out.

[Monalisa77]

Woops i made an update about my mum cating im on my own all night

[Opinion Owner]

I understand your concerns about your mom finding out about your potential date. It's important to prioritize your comfort and boundaries. If your friends have not shown much interest in making an effort to be friends with you, it might be worth reconsidering how you allocate your time and energy. However, keep in mind that balance is key, and it's always possible to find a way to see the guy you like while still maintaining some connections with your potential friends. Ultimately, the decision is yours, and it should align with your own priorities and feelings.

[Monalisa77]

I wouldn't call them friends, judt people i know/relatives

Obviously i wouldn't turn down an invite out another time, but i dont want to be a jerk who might hurt that person who wanted to go out ehatever we planned to do

[strateguy632]

i didn't see a conflict possible time with each of them

[Monalisa77]

We had spoke about arranging something before but nothing ever happens, now i may have a potential date which is bigger than any potential friends I've ever had, tbh he's made more effort to notice me Than any potential friend has

[Monalisa77]

I've had potential friends that seem like they like me sure, and say theyd like to see me, but dont make effort