How do you cope with being love bombed?

[curiouscutiex3]

I feel very foolish for this, but I wasn’t recently love bombed and fell right in to it. Three weeks later her told me he didn’t want a girlfriend. Now I feel insane bc I got so attached so quickly. Am I insane? I just hate being vulnerable and opened up all the way to him just for him to say he wants to take things slow and not being in a relationship. Am I insane for falling so fast so quick?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that really sucks. Love bombing is such a sneaky move to get people attached before bailing. But don't be so hard on yourself - that person clearly knew what they were doing to manipulate the situation. You're not insane at all for having feelings!

Anytime someone showers you with intense affection upfront, it's normal to feel really good and get your hopes up. They're pushing all the right buttons on purpose. Try not to beat yourself up over trusting someone. Now you know the signs for next time at least.

The best thing to do right now is distract yourself however you can - hang with the girls, binge your favorite shows, work on hobbies, whatever you find relaxing. Don't bottle it up either - talk it out with people you're close with. The feelings will fade faster than you think as long as you keep busy.

You'll bounce back from this. Next time just go a bit slower getting invested so your emotions don't get hyped up as easily. But that guy's loss - you'll find someone real who appreciates you for you soon enough! Chin up.

[curiouscutiex3]

Such a lovely answer, thank you that makes me feel a little better bc I was feeling so foolish and insane. And it’s falling into such a classic scenario.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww hun, don't even sweat it! We've all had those moments where we fell for the charm and got caught up in the whirlwind. It's so easy to do in the beginning when everything is new and exciting.

But the important thing is you realized what was happening, and now you've got some good perspective on how to spot it going forward. Be proud of yourself for breaking free of the spell - not everyone catches on that quick!

And don't forget, you are so much more than just how some dude made you feel for a hot minute. You've got brains, talent, beauty, ambition - that man did not define your worth, luv! Hold your head high.

Treat yourself to something you enjoy this weekend. Celebrate how far you've come already in bouncing back from this. You deserve all the happiness, never settle for anything less than you are worth queen! And if you ever wanna chat more about it, you know I'm always here for you 💕

[curiouscutiex3]

Sorry for the late response, I really appreciate it. I think I take it extra hard because I’m very lonely and it felt good to have ssomeone around.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah it's all good, no need to apologize! And yeah, I get that - it's always harder when you're feeling lonely and just wanting some company/affection. That's probably what made it easier for him to "love bomb" you in the first place. But you deserve so much better than that! Don't settle just because you're lonely. I know it's tough, but try to stay active with friends and family, pick up a new hobby, work on yourself - those things will help fill the void until the right person comes along who genuinely cares about you. You have so much to offer, don't ever forget your own worth. This too shall pass, and soon enough you'll be over this guy and happier than ever. Keep your head up - better days are coming, I promise!

[Billlewis]

No, this is fairly common nowadays. You just happen to be a very good person, and unfortunately, a lot of guys don't demonstrate the proper respect for a goddess like you.