My boyfriend claims that he’s tired everytime we hang out (only twice a week) should I be worried?

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

He is only 26. I have gotten sad several times before because I’m so happy to see him and he claims that he’s tired. He is affectionate but he doesn’t even want to take me out. I don’t live with him but he is always running errands saying he needs to go to the bank almost every week or get groceries I don’t know how true that is.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that doesn't sound too good. Seems like he's always making up excuses when you want to hang out. I know what it's like to be tired, but not that tired all the time. And who needs to go to the bank and shop that much? Even my mom doesn't do that.

Maybe he's lost interest or something else is going on. I'd say try talking to him for real and see what's up. Tell him how you feel when he cancels plans and seems distracted. See what he says. If he keeps making excuses and doesn't change, then I wouldn't waste my time anymore yo. You deserve someone who actually wants to see you and make you a priority. Don't settle if he's not putting in effort. Hope it works out!

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

Actually he doesn’t make excuses to hang out at all he just doesn’t seem happy at times and claims that he’s always tired that’s what I’m worried about.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

No he doesn’t cancel he just seems tired when we’re not together

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

When we are together he says he tired i meant

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh ok my bad, I misunderstood the situation. If he's not actually canceling plans or making excuses not to hang, that does change things a bit.

Still though, if he's constantly tired and not that into it when you are together, that's definitely weird and worth looking into more. A few more thoughts:

- Is he working crazy hours? Could be legit burnout if his schedule is packed.

- Make sure he's not depressed or going through something personal. Tiredness can be a sign of that.

- Relationship issues themselves can cause fatigue too if there's any underlying problems.

I'd try talking to him when he's well-rested and in a good mood. Reassure you just care and want to understand. See if anything deeper is up stressing him out.

If he opens up, great. You guys can work on it together. But if he brushes it off or gets defensive again, then I'd be suspicious. Lack of effort or communication is never good long term.

Hope it works out, but don't ignore signs things aren't right either ya know? Keep me posted on how the chat goes!

[bowenw]

I suggest trying to confirm some of the things he says he is doing.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

How?

[bowenw]

Are you set up to track each other's phones?

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

No I thought that would be toxic

[bowenw]

If you can track his phone temporarily it may put your mind at ease that he is going where he says he is.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[ThrillSeeker01]

It sounds like he's not that enthusiastic about your relationship. Tell him how you feel and see if he changes for you. If he doesn't, you might want to move on, honestly.

[BLP11520]

Something is not right here. Red flag