Is it normal that my boyfriend is always tired when we hang out? And is it normal that I always have to be the one to make plans?

[xJayleenx]

It kinda sucks because im always so excited to be with him but he’s always so tired. It kinda makes me feel like he doesn’t enjoy being with me. He doesn’t work I work full time but I have more energy than him he studies though but I’m not sure how often he’s just always tired and I’ve told him to get checked but he just dismisses me and acts like it’s normal. And it’s not like I’m sucking the energy out of him, we never argue, I’m always joking around with him and we’re both pretty affectionate so I wonder if he just gets so tired because he feels so comfortable around me? Also about the me making plans if it wasn’t for me we’d just be hanging out at home everytime he never tells me baby let’s do this and that it’s always me suggesting new places and him going along with it I don’t know if that’s normal too I also like to chill at home.

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1 y

How is it possible that being with him fills me up with energy because im so excited but he’s always tired 😂?

[Anonymous]

Yes. You're going through what every woman does in a relationship. The beginning is exciting, you're shiny and new, he's proving himself to you. You expect that level to continue. And while a guy should always make an effort towards his lady ( don't get the two confused). No guy can possibly keep everything new and exciting for you indefinitely.
In short, he probably hasn't changed. You probably have.

[slatyb]

No, and no. It sounds like you are doing all the work to keep this relationship going. He's either depressed or he's not that into you. It doesn't sound like a lot of fun. He has no energy and he doesn't work? WTF does he do all day? Dump this guy and find a man with a plan.

[xJayleenx]

I don’t know I ain’t that special either. He drives me everywhere and he is an honors college student that even made it to the Dean’s list meanwhile im like a c student that never studies yes I work full time but im lacking in studying. He barely works but he does deliveries through grubhub sometimes

[xJayleenx]

I don’t even have a license yet.

[xJayleenx]

He drives me to work everyday and has always been there for me like when i need a ride or something or going through a hard time

[xJayleenx]

But it’s also confusing about how I tell him oh this hurts or i might have a uti but he doesn’t ask how im doing i guess he’s just forgetful

[jennifer_bloom]

I’m thinking he pretends to be tired because he does not have money to hang out so wants an excuse to stay indoors and he might legitimately be tired, I know I’m not adapted to sunlight since I don’t leave the house during the pandemic and even the sun shining through the car window wearies me out when I’m driving back from a restaurant.

[VanillaSalt]

lol. God i feel this every time i used to make plans with my ex. Its a chore to go outside my schedule. But i tend to have a good time all the same lol. Its childish to not wanna do something your partner wants all the time but its normal for younger couples lol. Everyones selfish in the younger years. After a certain point men and women grow up and every moment outside the day to day is exciting.

[varan69]

Its possible but when ur in love and if unguysbdont see eachother that often it should be cool I won't say exciting but at least happy. So either he is getting bored of the same thing or losing some interest. And u guys don't live together yet eh. Its just my opinion.

[Iron_Man]

He’s awful young to be tired all the time what happens when he gets older will he be sitting in a rocking chair all day and fall asleep in it. I’m always up for a good plan and ready to go out.

[dolemite89]

are u guys having less sex in general? 🤔 he could be depressed or something.

[xJayleenx]

He’s been like this for a while now. And it’s still normal

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would sit him down and talk to him and also ask him questions, don't be afraid to ask him

[Ragingwhisper]

You have several questions about your boyfriend. Sounds like you need a change