Is it wrong that it bothers me that my boyfriend constantly falls asleep when we’re hanging out?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I often end our “date nights” by going back to my house or sitting in the car for a while and as of lately he keeps falling asleep. It is late (around 12-2 AM) when this happens and I can understand that we all get tired. However, we don’t live together and only see each other 1-2 times a week. Whenever we get to a point where we could just talk or watch something together, he’s already dosing off. I tell him he’s falling asleep and he denies it, I tell him if he’s tired he can head home and sleep but it seems like me doing this just annoys him. I’ve told him it bothers me because I enjoy quality time and to me watching him sleep is not quality time.

[Finchie40]

It’s wrong if you know he is a hard worker , because not everyone has the same sleep schedules and work schedules. So if he is a hard worker , you should be more supportive of him and not make everything about yourself. Now if he isn’t a hard worker , and he comes over just to fall asleep , that possibly means he is just bored of watching tv every time he comes to see you , so try to eliminate tv as much as possible and do something else instead. Have more sex , or go out somewhere together instead of just watching tv. Me personally gets bored easily if her and I just watch tv together instead of doing something more productive , I rather focus my time on her and each other then worry about what’s on tv. Most tv shows and movies these days put me to sleep fast if the movie or show doesn’t grasp my attention completely. I rather her and I go in the bedroom and play twister in bed over watching tv lol or listen to music as wel are hanging out and talking to each other. So try to eliminate tv and plan other things to do instead , He is probably bored just sitting around watching tv , I am the same way.

[DonaldDarko]

That's not his fault. Could be he's working to hard or he's picked up some weight maybe. That or he's not getting enough exorcise. You need cardio like running, that will give you the stamina to stay awake.

[SecretsofKB]

Oooh! I know this one! It is not wrong to be bothered by this at all!!!

As the one that falls asleep at the drop of the hat in my current relationship and in my past relationships, I totally get my partners being annoyed, especially if it was a dedicated date night and we didn't live with each other or see each other daily, and I would fall asleep. (most of the time this meant sleepover for me!!!)

But I do side with you on this one. If these nights are dedicated date nights, he should be trying a bit harder to stay awake. I'm sure he is super comfortable with you, but save the sleeping for when you are living with the person and see them much much more than this.

[Anonymous]

My husband is like that. He gets up early for work. I kinda like it, i just cuddle up to him.

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, I'm all about decoding the mystery of relationships! Getting a little peeved about your sleepyheads is completely normal, babe! 😴 While he might be genuinely exhausted (we've all been there!), communication is key. Express how important those hangout moments are to you. Maybe suggest earlier dates or activities that keep him alert and engaged. If he still doesn't get it, time for some wake-up calls—literally and figuratively! 🌟 Keep it spicy and balanced, your relationship deserves that quality time! 💕

[Asker]

He thinks I’m being unreasonable because this bothers me and expressed this to him. He expects an apology for even bringing it up.

[slatyb]

What else is he doing with his days? It's not wrong for something to bother you. You feel what you feel.

[Staximus]

You kick him out of your house when he falls asleep? What kind of bullshit is that? Just let him stay there you harpy

[WhitneySnow]

He’s probably really tired

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is tired, does he work a lot?