"I always tell him that I'm not frustrated or annoyed because I know that I'll just make him feel very bad about himself" Now that's where you make a mistake, in my opinion. You do it for the right reasons, but it's a mistake (not a big one). Still, the principles I follow is being open in relationships, which means never lying, even if it is to appease him. You must say the truth, and make sure it does not hurt by being diplomatic. Say you understand that he's tired, and would like him to feel free to kiss you and say goodnight when he's too tired. Also know that HE CAN help it. But he's trying, not hard enough maybe, but he's trying. He shouls not be even trying. He's not trying enough to succeed at being awake but he should not either be trying at all, unless you need support or something.
"I just feel like I need to talk to him about it." You do. Just make him feel free to say goodnight with a kiss, remind him that if he really wants to do something for you, he can. But staying awake isn't one of his duties, so here he should be comfortable. Are you exaggerating? No, your emotions are justified, you need to talk to him but he can't stay awake all the time. Use the time ou have with him wisely so that you get all the chatting you need. Maybe put movies aside if you lack time. So be open, true, straight and frank, and at the same time compassionate, diplomatic and caring. Communication is the key, and the right key is the one that is open, frank and diplomatic.
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My boyfriend and i stay up on the phone a lot too and we fall asleep on each other pretty often... and when i say we i mean me. I fall asleep on him in most of our Skype calls and the reason i didn't tell him. goodnight was because that would mean he would hang up and i would have to be alone again. I love talking to him. and i want to try my best and talk to him all night but sometimes i just can't he would get slightly frustrated with me also but we talked about it and now if he notices that im dozing on him he tells me to go to bed and i fight him on it until he promises he'll stay on the phone until im asleep. That way i still have his precence there but now i didn't just leave him hanging. Maybe you guys nerd to arrange the same thing
Well if you feel he's tired just say you're the one that's tired & say goodnight. Sometimes guys they feel like they can never please us girls. Just say "you sound tired, I'll talk to you tomorrow so you can get enough sleep." Even if he says he's okay just say that you'll feel bad if he's tired because he was up late talking on the phone. That way he won't leave you hanging. Just be the one who says goodnight.
There's too much pressure to "talk" and he's feeling it. Create a new talking pattern so that he can get some sleep, go to classes, she his F&F, do the laundry, prepare meals, etc. All this talking for hours on end is draining him but he doesn't want to say anything to upset you. You are both tiptoeing around the issue of talking.
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No, you shouldn't. Talking to you calms him and he obviously enjoys it since he wants to keep doing it. If he is exhausted and relaxed from hearing your voice, he might fall asleep. Take it as a compliment, unless he's doing it while he's wide awake in the middle of the day while you are telling a story lol
Why don't you just tell him what you have told us here: You would prefer if he says goodnight when he is tired and you understand that he needs to get a good rest before his classes.
Set aside one night a week to stay up late on the phone when neither of you have to wake up early the next day.You really need to talk to him. I mean it's not really a big issue, he's tired so he should sleep. It shouldn't matter he says goodnight as at the end of the day he's giving up his sleep to talk to you in the first palce
no. you shouldn't be mad at all.
He could just be tired.
He's tired...
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