My boyfriend is always tired

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 4 years is always tired and it is really causing issues in our relationship. He never wants to do anything anymore all he does is sit on the couch. He does work out and go to his job where he sits all day but that is about the only thing he ever has energy to do. We maybe have sex once a week at this point. I told him that it is a problem for me that we never go out and do anything id even settle for a date once a week to just dinner or a movie. We have also never been on vacation together. When I ask him he says he would like to but doesn't know if it will ever happen because he is tired all the time. I told him he is too young to be this tired and he won't go to a doctor. I just turned 25 this month and he is 27. I have been with him for so long and I want to get married before I am 30 so it seems scary to break up but I don't know what to do anymore. I feel upset and like I don't do what I want anymore. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I have been in your situation before and to be honest, I think it comes down to laziness and a lack of passion in the relationship. He might be tired all the time because of a medical condition sure, but even so, he has the energy to go to the gym but doesn't have the energy to have sex more than once a week? I would be very frustrated if I were you. I think you need to talk to him about his tiredness and make him go to the doctor. I also think you need to talk about your relationship - you're only having sex once a week and this is an indicator that your relationship is going downhill fast. Being "tired" all the time could be an excuse for not wanting to put any effort in your relationship. If things don't change, maybe it's time to move on. 4 years is a long time to be with someone, and unless you plan on marrying the guy, you're too young to settle for a boring relationship. You're 25! You should be making the most of life.

[Kittie]

He really needs to go to a doctor, and I don't think age really signifies that he shouldn't be tired. He sounds like he has a physical condition. Another possibility is that he's depressed that causes him to be tired and uninterested in things he used to do, too.

Tell him that the doctor can help him to feel and do better in life. He can just go for an examination, no pills, surgeries if he's afraid of that. Not sure about the shots.. he probably will need his blood drawn to check his health. But it's about seeing if it's manageable at home like meals and nothing serious with his body. It's better to catch something early then regret it later.

[meesh1220]

How long has he been this way? He may be anemic, he may have mono, it could be a number of things. The fact that it's taking a toll on your relationship is a big deal and should be enough to motivate him to go...men aren't big on going to the doctor, but if you're relationship means anything to him, he'll go. Good luck!

[KingsOfleon88]

if he's genuinely tired, he could have a medical condition and it would be in his best interest to see a Dr. asap. As for the sex, if you want it more, just grab his d*** and have a go at it. I don't think he's going to say no in the moment

[Anonymous]

He could have something seriously wrong with him, if he's really tired all the time it can be a indicator for many conditions:/ tell him how you honestly feel and I'm sure thatll persuade him to get up and get himself sorted because I doubt that he'll want the relationship to end!

[Eva_Grace]

If he seems obstinate to go to a doctor, I'd suggest changing dietary habits. Eat Good, Feel good. Many people will attest to eating healthier has promoted much more energy for them! It's worth a shot.

[whattothink]

I would go see somebody. It could be a number of underlying conditions or maybe he is depressed.

[g3a9j7]

Time to go see a doctor